We have been looking at headstones for my moms grave. We want to get a companion memorial (it would have both my moms and my dads name on it). So, my older brother and I think that we (the kids) shoud pay for it. Because we don't feel like my dad should have to purchase his own headstone. BUT...My younger brother thinks that my dad should pay for it. Well, flat out, my dad cannot afford it, lives on a very small fixed income, I have been really saving to help pay for it, as has my older brother, so we are ready to do our part, but my younger brother has put his foot down and refuses to pitch in. My older brother and I want to do it now because it would be our final gift to our mother. But without the contribution of my younger brothers part...we have to keep saving.
Short back story about my younger brother:
About 10 years or so ago, my younger brother came into ALOT of money (millions). It is a long story but there was a lawsuit settlement and he(and my SIL) and his son got about 3mil each. He invested it very well and still has the large sum - plus and is doing very well financially.
Ok back to my question. Who is SUPPOSED to buy it? What is the norm?