I purposely did not invite my step-kids to my Mom's house this Thanksgiving. I don't want to be around them I hate family gatherings when they attend because the step-daughter (age 25) is always just looking for a reason to be pissed off. And the step- son (age 24) is so racist that everything is the "N" word. My son who is 21 is expecting his first child, when I mentioned what they are going to name her (Kenlee) he said that sounded like a "N" name. No one can say anything to him because he would probably knock you down. When my step-daughter thought that her bio-brother had attended Thanksgiving with us, she called me up and started screaming at me. I just handed the phone to her Dad. This is not the 1st time this has happened. I no longer prepare Christmas dinner because of their actions in the past. But this year is my turn to host the family Christmas Eve get together and there is no way of getting out of it. WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO? If I interact with them I will either piss off my step-daughter or get called a derogatory name by my step-son. If I try to keep my distance I will be accused of ignoring them. My husband is aware of how I feel, but he stil wants to see his kids and include them and I don't blame him. He truly tries to keep the peace and takes up for me when he see's or hears this behavior. They act like "night and day" around my husband so he doesn't always see or hear it first hand. I guess I am doomed to have miserable holidays for the rest of my married life.