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My father in law is going to be 92 this year. He is a very young 92, still drives over to the gym and walks with his other buddies in the pool.

He has been an enormous help this year for my husband. I usually get him a Harry and David basket because he likes apples and pears. I always ask each year, "hey do you still like that?" and his reply is yes. However since he has been so supportive this year with my husband I wanted to get something else besides that basket.

Any thoughts? I just don't know what to get. Food is great, but smaller quantities or single servings since he's a widower.

Thanks!

by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:37 PM
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rosebud727
by Rose on Dec. 5, 2012 at 4:53 AM


Quoting CoeyG:

I'm thinking that since he has been supportive of you why not a "coupon" book made by your family for him to enjoy sharing time with you guys, A weekly dinner, if it isn't "srs. only" maybe join him for a walk in the pool.  I'm sure he has some wonderful old photos, how about getting with him getting them all straightened out and listening (perhapes recording) his stories about the photos and the times back then.  Give him the gift of your time. 

I would love to do this, but it's a distance issue. He's in Ohio, we're in CA. If he was close by we would see him on a weekly/daily basis. As it is, my husband and his father share weekly phone calls.

We are planning a trip in the Spring.

rosebud727
by Rose on Dec. 5, 2012 at 4:54 AM


Quoting kam013:

How about the Omaha steaks? We often worry that my MIL is not eating properly so we send her one of the packages from Omaha steaks. They aren't the cheapest products out there, but we have never had an issue with quality and she loves the variety packs. Many of them have steaks, chicken, fish and other items to choose from.

This is great idea, I can give him a basket from Harry and David and some steaks. Thanks!

homeskoolmama
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 8:57 AM

What about the basket and something personal. Something you know he likes but doesn't buy for himself. A certain food, cologne or book? Maybe he needs a new pair of gloves or a nice scarf?

EireLass
by Gold Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:05 AM
You can do small 'fruit of the month' clubs.
momma-t42
by Gold Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:15 AM

I had fleece blankets made for all my girls this year for Christmas on Shutterfly.  I put precious pictures in them.  It's a Great way to put your families pictures in them so he will always have you with him.  I got the blankets a couple days ago and the photo's turned out Fabulous on the blankets.  I bought the larger blankets and the were HUGE...so, the smaller blanket would probably be perfect for him.  You could write a cute quote on it voicing your love for him.

Mariagma3
by Silver Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:18 AM

 

Quoting rosebud727:

I agree, though I think that letter should probably come from my husband.

Quoting kuntrylady56:

 

 Maybe just something as simple as a letter expressing how much you appreciate him and what hes did to help out with your family this year. Sometimes the simplest gifts that are given from the heart are the ones most appreciaated.


 A letter from hub would be great! But, considering hub is a MAN, will he write it? LOL

Bleacheddecay
by Gold Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 11:27 AM

That could be a problem. Maybe you can find a place there that can bring him meals?

Quoting rosebud727:

Nice idea except I'm in CA and he's in Ohio.

Quoting Bleacheddecay:

How about each time you make a meal between now and x'mas your freeze part of it for him. Label it with heating instructions and date. Take the whole thing over to him and he'll be set for a while?



rosebud727
by Rose on Dec. 5, 2012 at 2:43 PM
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 He's pretty self-sufficent. He still drives, cooks, cleans his home. He's a very healthy man. I just need a good gift idea. What I did learn this morning though from my husband is that he doesn't know how to cook things like a steak. Sounds easy but I think he's a make a sandwich kind of guy, grab a piece of fruit or bake a chicken breast.

Quoting Bleacheddecay:

That could be a problem. Maybe you can find a place there that can bring him meals?

Quoting rosebud727:

Nice idea except I'm in CA and he's in Ohio.

Quoting Bleacheddecay:

How about each time you make a meal between now and x'mas your freeze part of it for him. Label it with heating instructions and date. Take the whole thing over to him and he'll be set for a while?


 

 

rosebud727
by Rose on Dec. 5, 2012 at 2:49 PM

 

Quoting homeskoolmama:

What about the basket and something personal. Something you know he likes but doesn't buy for himself. A certain food, cologne or book? Maybe he needs a new pair of gloves or a nice scarf?

Here is another issue, we are not the only family. There are 4 other familes that send him stuff plus grandkids!

 I was thinking a new hat or something but my SIL said he's got stuff that is new and not used. That was the reason I started doing the fruit baskets with other stuff in them because it's a use it up type item. I thought for sure my husband would say "yeah include some Omaha steaks" wrong! He said both his mom and dad would turn a good piece of meat into leather! lol. 

One year I sent him a seat warmer so his butt stays warm during football games. He loved that!

CoeyG
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 12:26 AM


Quoting rosebud727:


Quoting CoeyG:

I'm thinking that since he has been supportive of you why not a "coupon" book made by your family for him to enjoy sharing time with you guys, A weekly dinner, if it isn't "srs. only" maybe join him for a walk in the pool.  I'm sure he has some wonderful old photos, how about getting with him getting them all straightened out and listening (perhapes recording) his stories about the photos and the times back then.  Give him the gift of your time. 

I would love to do this, but it's a distance issue. He's in Ohio, we're in CA. If he was close by we would see him on a weekly/daily basis. As it is, my husband and his father share weekly phone calls.

We are planning a trip in the Spring.

Okay the coupon book is out then. 

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