Let me start by saying that family is number 1 in my book. I have 2 children ages 20 & 23. I have been remarried for 2 years now to a wonderful man that treats my two children like his own. This being said the holiday season is my favorite time of years it provides an opportunity to spend some quality time with my kids along with the fact all of our family lives within a decent short driving time of each others homes. I am very fortunate for this as I cherish each family member. However I am one who likes to plan ahead as a lot of people to accommodate the schedules that envelope us with a blended family. We have my parents, 3 brothers and their families along with my husbands parents and two siblings and their families along with my children's fathers family they spend time with to work out coordinating schedules. My family along with my husbands families have both celebrated Christmas eve each for as long as we both remember so this poses the reasoning for pre planning schedules. Problem is when I approached my mother first with the topic of the Christmas scheduling a few days after thanksgiving she thought it was too early to plan. She is one that I find becomes overwhelmed when something needs to be scheduled or planned ahead. I offered to take this over to make things easier but she did not want that. She said she would talk to everyone and see what schedules looked like as some work retail. In meantime my husbands family wanted to coordinate timing of Christmas eve as they have in laws to visit also on this night. We went ahead and planned a time for my in laws house as the majority there could make it at a certain time and we did not have plans yet on my side. Then today my mom gives me the time she decided on for our side and it is within an hour of my husbands families. When I told her my dilemma of working out a plan she basically bit my head off and said some very nasty things to me. My feelings are so deeply hurt yet I asked her why she was acting that way to me she asked me if I was having PMS. This was not the case and I am always nothing but respectful to my mother so I do not know what is going on. She hung up on me and then proceeded to send me a text to just worry about ourselves and made me feel selfish even though I am trying to work out a plan for that day especially since the drive between the families is not too far. HELP! I have tried to basically apologize for something I didn't do to keep peace but I do not feel I did anything wrong. She said she feels as though I put the other family first when frankly I was asking her first and still trying to coordinate both. Any thoughts on how to remedy as i want to enjoy the holidays!