Hi! I need some advise...here is my issue. I have two kids an 18 year old female and a 12 year old son. My 18 year old is one that if she is not happy the whole house is not happy. In March she turned 18 and by summer she had it in her head she is an adult and doesnt need to check in with her dad or I and she could come and go as she pleases. This has never been the case, so one day when we told her no, she said she was going to go out anyways, so we said if she leaves she was no able to return. The next day she moved in with my husband mom. After she left, we agree she can take the car we let her drive so she can drive to school and to her college soccer games, the agreement was she would pay $50.00 for insurance, since we are a sports family we wanted the kids to focus on grades and sports, so this is not a large amount, but something. After she got her car, we did not see or hear from her unless she needed something, which really upset my husband since they have always been close. My daughter also "forgot" or would delay payment, so after many months of monthly insurance payment reminders, late payments, my husband took back the car. With Christmas I knew she probably would be around, and she was. All was fine until Christmas came and went, she got her presents which is what i believe she came for and then she turned back to her normal moody self, and left.
She requested her car back, but I don't think giving it to her is a good idea since it feels she is using us. She rather spend her money on plane tickets to visit her out of state boyfriend. I just see her making so many mistakes and it kills me but it is so hard to communicate with her, she just doesn't want to hear it. Let me be an adult, and make my own decisions, but yet she wants us to pay for her car, clothes, and insurance while she treats us like dirt. What do I do???