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daughters college weight gain

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Has anyone else had a child gain a lot of weight in college.  Its an issue witth my duaghter. I just got done buying her a whole new wardrobe yet again before she goes back to college for her 2nd semester of her junior year.   I know it is commom to gain weight in college, but over the last 2 1/2 years its been around 80 lbs (i would guess).  She goes to college 7 hours from home but is always calling me upset about her weight and in tears sometimes.  When she is home from college we walk together and i cook healthy food for her and she loses a little howver then she goes back to college and gains.  I just feel like I am alone with this issue trying to help her and I have clue what to do.

by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 10:20 AM
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.Holly.
by Bronze Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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Reading these posts are pretty sad coming from adult women. This is a sensitive topic for some I'm sure and we really should be considerate of others.

I've always been on the slender side and I'm quite sure genetics play a role, but not everyone has it that way and for some gaining and losing isn't easy. We are all women here and should be supporting each other.

OP I'm sorry to hear about the struggles your daughter is going through in regard to her weight gain. It's likely there is an underlying issue there that maybe a doctor could address. It very well may not just be due to a college weight gain. I hope she's able to find out and take steps to help her lose it.
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kimber2465
by Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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you can not make anyone do anything, or control.

Quoting sabrtooth1:

This sounds like an emotional problem, and she will NOT be able to take the weight off till she deals with her issues.  Tell her that unless she goes to a counselor at school, AND loses a significant amount of weight by spring, you will NOT pay for her to go back.  It's the same as if she had ANY health problem that she refused to get under control.  YOU can't do anything when she is 7 hours away.  If she won't do anything, you will need to get her home, where you have some control.


kimber2465
by Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 11:08 AM

if it has been a while for a physical. then it is time to get one. also suggest to her about having someone to talk to. also check about seeing a dietitian or a nutritionist. t  also keep healthy snacks, water around helps.

MichelleMc
by Silver Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 11:31 AM


Quoting sabrtooth1:

This sounds like an emotional problem, and she will NOT be able to take the weight off till she deals with her issues.  Tell her that unless she goes to a counselor at school, AND loses a significant amount of weight by spring, you will NOT pay for her to go back.  It's the same as if she had ANY health problem that she refused to get under control.  YOU can't do anything when she is 7 hours away.  If she won't do anything, you will need to get her home, where you have some control.


This is plain & simple Bullying! If it is emotional then bullying her isn't going to help! She needs help, not bullying her while she is 7 hours away with threats of if you don't lose a significant amout of weight. And by spring? That isn't even healthy!

Bleacheddecay
by Silver Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 12:42 PM

This is heartbreaking I understand it. *HUGS*

My girl has gained a lot. I know she got into unhealthy eating habits due to a medication that made her naucious and a sport she was doing. If you ate during the day, then went to practice you were likely to throw up. Therefore she got to where she ate only once a day and really pigged out.

She went veggie which helped but she eats mostly prepared foods which doesn't. She has NO idea portion control at all even though I've talked to her about it many times. All her life I've talked about proper nuetrition and how it's better to eat a balanced portion about the size of your fist 6-8 times a day rather than skip meals.

But she didn't really gain weight until this past two semesters and I think it's a LOT of weight. She had some health crisis just before it happened. I also think her body is prone to being big. Only 3-4 hours of heavy exercise a day helps with it. And she quit her sport two years ago. What I think might have gotten her really big is medication.

They put her on something to help her focus that is a salt and a controled substance. This made her prone to heat exhaustion and stroke but also I think may have caused weigh gain. I've tried to tell her doctors to put her only on weight neutral drugs from now on. I suspect one of many reasons our weight as a country is out of control is these drugs.

Right now, I'm just fighting for my girl to be functional and finish school. That's been a struggle this last year. I think we may have finally made it through but who knows.

She refuses to exercise.

She doesn't want me to "worry" about her weight. She has a host of other issues to deal with. So I'm just trying to keep any bad foods out of the house and her apartment and hope it goes better. I'm also keeping my mouth shut.

I have told her that she must continue counseling at least once a month whether she feels it is helping her or not. And not do any more self destructive behavior such as drinking which makes her meds not work or those morning glory seeds she and her "friends" got high on which nearly killed her or I will cancel her lease and bring her home.

atlmom2
by Gold Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 1:23 PM
Wow, she eats like crazy. She doesn't look her age but I can't change that and she can' either. She has seen metabolism specialist and endocrinologist and she is how she is. Yes, you are being rude. When all the doctors say she matches and is perfect. She is. You can't change metabolism. She had a low normal growth hormone. She had no genetic issues.


Quoting MichelleMc:

 


Quoting atlmom2:



 


Here is my dd and her friend last spring at senior prom.  She is petite but not underweight. 


Beyond underweight. And underweight, causes height issues. That doctor, WOW. She looks like she is someones little sister from Elementary. Beautiful but not even close to the right age.


105-111 on a petite frame is healthy. And your nephew. Poor kid :( That is SOOOOOOOOOO un healthy.


Yes working out is healthy, but you to say she needs to "work out more" was your way of pushing she needed to get off that 6 lbs. I can see why she is the way she is :(


And you acting like it is just so easy. Looks like size is simple in your family. You are just being nasty in the posts & healthy size is obese to you.


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MichelleMc
by Silver Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 2:46 PM


Quoting atlmom2:

Wow, she eats like crazy. She doesn't look her age but I can't change that and she can' either. She has seen metabolism specialist and endocrinologist and she is how she is. Yes, you are being rude. When all the doctors say she matches and is perfect. She is. You can't change metabolism. She had a low normal growth hormone. She had no genetic issues.


Quoting MichelleMc:



Quoting atlmom2:





Here is my dd and her friend last spring at senior prom.  She is petite but not underweight. 


Beyond underweight. And underweight, causes height issues. That doctor, WOW. She looks like she is someones little sister from Elementary. Beautiful but not even close to the right age.


105-111 on a petite frame is healthy. And your nephew. Poor kid :( That is SOOOOOOOOOO un healthy.


Yes working out is healthy, but you to say she needs to "work out more" was your way of pushing she needed to get off that 6 lbs. I can see why she is the way she is :(


And you acting like it is just so easy. Looks like size is simple in your family. You are just being nasty in the posts & healthy size is obese to you.


Just glad she is away & adding on some weight & getting closer to healthy weight now. 

jabs54
by Jeanine on Jan. 7, 2013 at 3:15 PM

 The fact is some people, like me, will always struggle with gaining weight easily.  And some, like my husband, cannot gain weight.  Unfortunately your dd sounds like she is the kind to gain weight easily.  And let me just say that there is nothing more annoying to me than to have someone who is naturally thin tell ME how to lose weight.  No amount of bribing or nagging will help.   You can suggest she try one new thing every week (or month if that is too much) to be healthier...eg. go to the gym, limit chips, get more sleep, no drinking alcohol, no drinking soda etc. etc.   She will find it hard to lose while she is surrounded with people who are eating junk and drinking alcohol but if she just focuses on ONE thing every week it won't be so daunting.  And, the more she focuses on the weight the worse it will be.  Also, talking with a counselor would probably help.

atlmom2
by Gold Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 3:57 PM


Quoting MichelleMc:

 

Quoting atlmom2:

Wow, she eats like crazy. She doesn't look her age but I can't change that and she can' either. She has seen metabolism specialist and endocrinologist and she is how she is. Yes, you are being rude. When all the doctors say she matches and is perfect. She is. You can't change metabolism. She had a low normal growth hormone. She had no genetic issues.


Quoting MichelleMc:

 


Quoting atlmom2:



 


Here is my dd and her friend last spring at senior prom.  She is petite but not underweight. 


Beyond underweight. And underweight, causes height issues. That doctor, WOW. She looks like she is someones little sister from Elementary. Beautiful but not even close to the right age.


105-111 on a petite frame is healthy. And your nephew. Poor kid :( That is SOOOOOOOOOO un healthy.


Yes working out is healthy, but you to say she needs to "work out more" was your way of pushing she needed to get off that 6 lbs. I can see why she is the way she is :(


And you acting like it is just so easy. Looks like size is simple in your family. You are just being nasty in the posts & healthy size is obese to you.


Just glad she is away & adding on some weight & getting closer to healthy weight now. 

FYI

A 19 year old (female) child who is 92 pounds and is 4 feet and 10 inches tall has a body mass index of 19.3, which is at the 19th percentile, and would indicate that your child is at a healthy weight.

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tinysmom160
by Bronze Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 8:00 PM

It sounds to me she has something that is worrying her. You need to talk to her AND IF YOU CAN NOT then they have counselor at the school. Tell her to ask for help my kids went the other way they lost weight which my son needed too my daughter she is just very busy.

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