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Do You Ask Vistors To Remove Their Shoes In Your Home?

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:29 AM
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Making People Take Off Their Shoes in Your House Is Not Rude

Posted by Adriana Velez

slippersA lot of families have a no-shoes rule for their homes. It just makes sense, especially for those of us who do the cleaning up after our kids stomp around in mud, playground gravel, and goodness knows what else. And wearing slippers or socks indoors makes everyone feel more cozy at home. I feel like taking my shoes off as soon as I get home helps me transition into a totally different (more relaxed!) mindset. It's the way I was raised, and wearing shoes inside just feels weird.

But I take this healthy habit a step further. I make all our visitors take off their shoes, too. Whether it's kids on a play date or adults coming over for dinner, I'll politely ask you to remove your shoes. In fact, I'm totally shameless about asking everyone.

I know some people think it's rude to ask visitors to remove their shoes. And I still remember that Sex and the City episode where Carrie's Manolos got stolen when a host forced her to remove them. Not everyone comes over prepared to go shoeless, I know -- and I'm not sure hanging out barefoot in my home is much better. 

But ... I just can't abide shoes indoors. In New York City, we're always walking over urine, garbage juice, dried vomit, and all kinds of toxic waste. I don't want that tracked into my home! Plus, I don't want to torment my downstairs neighbors with the sound of noisy shoes clunking around overhead. That sound carries like crazy in my building, even with rugs on the floor.

The only people who are exempt are workers. If you're here to fix the sink, install cable, or paint the walls, by all means: Keep your shoes on. Asking fix-it guys to take off their shoes just feels like going too far.

You know what, though? Asking our guests to remove their shoes in my home is never a problem. Maybe it's just that in the city, it's sort of a given that most people take off their shoes when they get home. Usually, my adult visitors kick off their shoes automatically out of habit (on the other hand, most kids will just run in). I don't even say anything.

And by the way, shoes are safe in my hallway. I've known my neighbors for 14 years. They are not shoe-stealers. And none of my friends wear Manolos. For the record, no one covets their dusty brown Merrell mocs, their dingy gray New Balance sneakers, their scuffed clogs. No one. And for those who are worried, I have no problem with people leaving their shoes just inside next to the door.

Ideally, though, I would have a lovely basket filled with soft guest slippers in all sizes. I've known other families who do this and I've just never gotten organized enough to do it myself. I know it would make asking a lot more gracious if I could also hand over the perfect pair of slippers. Make yourself more comfortable! (And help me keep my home clean ...)

Do you ask visitors to remove their shoes in your home?

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:29 AM
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homeskoolmama
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:48 AM
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Depends on the weather. I have all hard wood floors but if it is rainy and nasty out, the floor really becomes slippery and dangerous. I did hear on the news last week that you SHOULD remove your shoes because of all the viruses, germs and sickness you bring in your home on your shoes.

specialwingz
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:50 AM
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I don't have to ask.  Everyone does it automatically.  It's just good manners.

Cafe MichelleP
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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Shoes are automatically removed in my home too. That is just the way it is around here.

Even maintenance or repair people will come in and either remove their shoes or put slip covers over their shoes.

Bmat
by Barb on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:15 AM

I prefer that they do, but I don't ask them. I used to when the children were small, and the grandchildren still do. I always slip off my shoes just inside the door. No one has to leave their shoes in a hallway, though, in the foyer is fine- they won't get taken. What I should do is to go to dollar store and get cheap slippers for people to use and take home with them. I wouldn't want people to share slippers, or at least I'd wash slippers between wearings if I didn't want people to take them home.

Bmat
by Barb on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:15 AM
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I really like when workers put slipcovers on over their shoes.

Quoting Cafe MichelleP:

Shoes are automatically removed in my home too. That is just the way it is around here.

Even maintenance or repair people will come in and either remove their shoes or put slip covers over their shoes.


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by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:25 AM

Usually not,
However if there is snow we may :)

Why123
by Nancy on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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I am diabetic and one of the first things they tell you is never to walk barefoot.  We are supposed to always wear shoes to prevent foot injuries.  I would never ask someone else to do what I can't.  If taking off your shoes is a requirement, then I just will never visit your house.

Simmeringhearts
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:26 AM

Yes.

Bmat
by Barb on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:40 AM

Ohhh, I see. I didn't know this.  So my idea of disposable cheap slippers wouldn't be a good idea would it.

Quoting Why123:

I am diabetic and one of the first things they tell you is never to walk barefoot.  We are supposed to always wear shoes to prevent foot injuries.  I would never ask someone else to do what I can't.  If taking off your shoes is a requirement, then I just will never visit your house.


Bmat
by Barb on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:42 AM

I visited a friend who had new hardwood flooring put down in her house. She mentioned that some friends had come over and not removed their shoes, so I knew then that it was her policy. I could have brought slippers, but I just slipped off my shoes and walked in sock feet. I didn't mind, I feel it is more sanitary.

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