I am a mom of 5. One of which is an adult, married, living on her own with 2 children. After reading some of the posts, I guess I should be happy. However, that is how it has always been ever since my daughter was a teen. I have always wanted more from her life than what she wants. She and her husband are horrible with money. They live paycheck to paycheck. They do not have any more saved for emergencies. (My mother and I had to recently pay for car problems because they didn't have the money.) I watch my granddaughter after school because they can't afford after school care. I recently bought winter clothes for my grandson because they were going to visit out of state and he didn't have any winter clothes that fit. Every Time they eat out my blood boils. Eating out to me is a luxury that is for special occasions, i.e. birthday, anniversary, etc. Not occasions like, I am tired and don't want to cook or we don't have anything I want to eat. My problem is what is my role. They owe my mother and I and total of $400 between the two of us. They recently ordered a pizza. When I found out I sent my son in law a message that people who do not have money and owe people money DO NOT order pizzas. I told him he needed to put on his big boy pants and be a man. He contacted my daughter and my daughter told me to not send him messages like that. It makes him all upset at her for talking to me. I feel that I have a right to speak my mind because they owe me money. The other issue I have is that my daughter calls me and unloads all her crap about him being a crappy husband/father and I am not supposed to say anything about it. I am her mother not her friend. As a mother, I want to teach her how to get out of this situation and not be in it. This has been an ongoing roller coaster for almost 5 years. Anyone out there that has a similar situation?