OK, my DD (will be 20 in June) has separated from her husband (illegal 40 yr old :( ) It was a relationship DH and I adamantly opposed and verbally said so but all we heard in return...I'm 18 blah blah blah. Their relationship steadily spiraled downhill with several altercations, sometimes DD being the aggressor. They feably attempted to work on their relationship, but ended on 4/11 while DH, myself, DD2 and DS2 were out of town on a campus visit. DD stayed at our home until we returned the next evening. Son-n-law picked up baby Sunday evening until Tuesday morning and brought him to our house before he went to work..he WAS supposed to pick him up again Sunday, but there is now a no contact protective order b/c Monday evening, he took property from the home and stashed it at an undisclosed location. DD wants HER things back only, but I advised her to file for custody before he did and while doing that (she went by herself) they asked questions which led to domestic violence counselor etc and the OofP.
Son-in-law loves baby, he tears up whenever he has to leave him or when talking to DH and I about the situation. DD spoke with a lawyer who advised her to call INS and report him...DD is SERIOUSLY thinking about it. While I can't be 100% sure SNL won't run with the baby it doesn't make sense for him to. He's been here 9 yrs already and the laws are changing to where he soon can be legal even with out being married to DD.
Should she call? I think it would devastate him and ruin his life....I'm not comfortable with it at all. Not being able to see his son for 15 days until the order is permanent will tear him up. Should I let him see the baby but only at our home and tell him swap the keys for the baby until custody is in order? He also knows I have a CWP and carry even at home.
We went to court this morning....DD got a protective order for herself but not the baby. She already filed for custody...requesting an expedited hearing. Sil not allowed at our house...not sure how to deal with visitation. If sil gets baby.....he doesn't have to return baby since it's his baby too. We originally agreed he could get him Sunday evening and return him Tuesday morning...(because he works Tuesday through Sunday 10Am to about 10-11PM)..which he did this week BEFORE we found out he took things from the home he doesn't want DD to have and before she filed. I am so worried he may take the baby too.