my name is Leeanne I have 4 children a 25 year old boy, a 23 year old daughter, a 20 year old son and a 15 year son.
our 25 year old is a disabled youth and will always live with us.
our 23 year old graduated high school 5 years ago and has still not decided to get an education or even to get a job.
our 20 year still lives at home but has accepted an apprenticeship with a local gas fitting, heating a cooling company, he pays us room and board. recently purchased a used vehicle. He has set out to either rent an apartment or buy his first home by next summer.
our 15 year old is the first out of the four to have a part time job while in high school all while maintaining honour role grades. his goal is to become a machinist and work out west in the Oil sands of Alberta. he saved enough money over the summer to purchase a cellphone and maintain his own bill until the end of next June when the company he worked for will hire again.
I've read many web articles and I can't seem to find any that deals with my situation. My husband works 50 hours a week, plus overtime to try and provide food, hydro, insurances. the 23 year old keeps saying she can't work it's too hard, she sees herself 5 years from now, waking up in her childhood bedroom doing nothing, paying for nothing. We had an argument over the weekend. I called her lazy and self centered and told her if she didn't have a job soon she was going to have to leave.
problem: my husband thinks I'm being too harsh that we need to find another way of handling her.
what do I do?
on Nov. 19, 2013 at 11:03 AM