I know I have not posted in awhile but we have had a lot going on. So here it is in a nutshell...
Again it is dealing with my oldest daughter. She just turned 22 years old. She is still living here at home. She is nothing but a drama queen in the literal sense! Since February we have put out 4,000 dollars for a down payment on a car for her due to a major accident she was in on February 20th. This was done against my better judgement. My husband insisted on giving her the money and co signing on a loan for her. I let it go because I just did not feel like fighting constantly with my husband about it. We are paying for a lawyer because the woman that hit my daughter head on has an insurance company that is being hard headed and I just do not want to deal with it. They are low balling us on the car that we owned and they are fighting the medical bills. Why should my medical insurance cover my daughter's injuries and treatment when it was not her fault? I just want my daughter's medical bills paid by the other ladies insurance company.
My 12 is going through screening for ADHD. No one other than my husband and I know this and I refuse to tell anyone else in the family due to the back lash that we will get. My mother literally would tell me that I was horrible for sending my son to a therapist and getting him on meds to help with his concentration. Honestly it is really no one elses business.
Just in the last week my oldest daughter and I got into a large fight about things. She came home demanding that we stay out of her life basically and that what she did was none of our business. I am of the mind if you are living here rent free what you are doing in my home is my business. She was threatening to move out and I basically told her that it was up to her what she wanted to do but I told her good luck. My husband again told me that I was being mean. Oh well. I can only take so much fun for one day!
Now yesterday this same daughter informed me that she may be pregnant! I was like UMMMM okay what do you want me to do about it????
Ladies help me here to find at least a bit of support and sympathy for her. I just do not have it in me right now. Give me some reassurance that I am not a horrible mother and that I am not a failure. She literally is throwing away everything that she has worked for as far as college. She has 1 more freaking semester left before she gets her degree! Why in the name that all that is good would she do this? Why in the world would she trade a few minutes of pleasure for getting her life in order before getting herself in this situation?
I am honestly afraid of how this going to play out. I am not willing to give up going back to school myself to stay home to help out with another baby. I only say this because my husband will want to help out and it will all fall back on us as a family. It is going to impact us all and I do not know if I am willing to disrupt our household and my let this impact my 2 youngest or anything to do with my 2 youngest. I honestly am of the mind with my oldest that if you play you gotta pay. You made your bed and you have to lay in it!
I needed to vent and you have always have given me good advice and are honest. Thank you for reading this all the way to the end if you have.