Okay, so he isn't my son in law yet, but has been living with my daughter for almost nine years. He has a problem with MY age. I am 49 and he is 42, my daughter is 31. He says I treat him like a child. I don't see it. The only time I talked to him like he was a child he and my daughter both deserved it. From lack of communication my daughter almost aborted their baby. Yes, I was mad. Yes, I shook my finger at both of them, and yes, I shouted the damn house down. It saved a llife. I have no regrets. Beyond that I try to speak to him like an adult. My daughter is an adult and makes her own decisions.
He is constantly baiting me for a fight and insulting. He constantly challenges my political and spiritual beliefs. So what? He is entitied to his opinion. But why is this all my fault? For isnstance, I went to baby sit for 21 days because he and my daughter were both working 21 days in a row and needed help with the kids. I got lonely. I cried because I missed my husband. I never saw them. I didn't know anyone down there. I didn't have anyone to talk to but three kids. He asks me why I'm crying and I told him I missed my husband, I missed my dogs. He snorts with disgust and says, "I'm glad I'm not so dependent on one person that I'd fall apart just being away for awhile."
My daughter just pleads with me to ignore him or 'try to get along'. What the hell am I supposed to do?