Anyone here have experience taking care of elderly parents?
My mom, at 82 years old, has mild dementia, although her doctor doesn't think she does and added a 2nd BP med and an antidepressant.
My dilemma is this - mom is in denial about her condition (forgetfulness) and gets offended when my dad (81 yrs old) tries to remind her of stuff. I'm concerned she is not always remembering to take her meds. She's on 2 BP meds, a thyroid med, something for cholesterol and also an antidepressant. I was there the other day and she got very defensive when I asked her about her meds and if she was remembering to take them. Then Dad and I discovered a 2nd weekly pill box of hers in the kitchen and she got very confused about that.
I am going to start going over there on Sunday afternoons and just take over setting up her pill box - and then go over to check up on that a couple times during the week - her doc wants her to check her BP but I don't think dad is taking mom that frequently, so I think I'll take on that responsibility.
I'm also a bit worried about her finances - she mentioned to me that she and dad went to her bank, it had $8000 in it, but now it's "all gone." Dad is not the kind of person that would just take all her money like that. I'm quite certain she is remembering something from the past and making it sound like it's a recent event ... so that kind of bothers me.
I hope I'm not overstepping the mother/daughter boundaries - I'm just not sure how to approach this so mom doesn't get defensive/offended by this.
any suggestions and/or ideas would be most welcome!