Hi, my name is Tori and I am new to the group. I joined this group because I really needed an outlet for my anger and fraustration with my 25 year old stepson who doesn't work and continues to look to us to support him, girlfriend and 2 kids and 1 on the way. I am also very upset with my husband who continues to enable stepson. Over the years he has bought stepson 3 cars, paid his car note and insurance, paid his rent, paid his utilities, paid girlfriend's car not when she didn't pay it and lent them money from time to time. Stepson has not worked in over 2 years and as far as I can tell is not really interested in looking. girlfriend has a part time minimum wage job. We will go for weeks and not hear from them or be able to reach them. We never see the grandkids.Then we do hear from them it is because they need money because they didn't pay the water bill or electric and it got shut off. One time they called dh to ask him for money for gas' and diapers. Now, girlfriend is pregnant for the 3rd time. what should be a joyful time is very upsetting. They can not care for themselves and the 2 they have much less a 3rd.
we are not wealthy by any means and cannot continue to support ss and even if we could it really bothers me that stepson doesn't do anything to help himself. We have 2 daughter's age 14 and 16 at home. We also have my mother in law living with us (another story) . my husband recenthly found out that he may have to take a pay cut. I have been looking for work. I've talked to husband about this and he always says "this wtill be the last time" then stepson will call asking for something 'and husband will give it to him. It's causing major stress and strain on our finance' s, our marriage and even with our girls. It's to the point that everytime husband is in a bad mood they ask "so, what's wrong with ss?" We just can't continue this way!