What do you ladies think of that motto? I am reading my facebook page with a old high school buddy who left her partner because she fell in love with someone else. She keeps saying The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants, as why she cheated. They had three children that the partner gave birth to, so the partner has the custody of them. This woman keeps posting how horrible everyone is treating her just because she fell in love. So she is the victim. (she does get every other weekend visitations, out of the goodness of her partners heart, not legally). I guess I am hearing this more and more with Men/Women leaving their spouses and then not having a problem with making the kids suffer publicly on facebook. I have even seen one daughter tell her dad to get off facebook about the divorce in the comments of his rant. Should marriage be based on what the heart wants or obligation to the vows. Can you fall back in love with a spouse/partner if you put the same effort into them as the new interest in your life?
That's a lame excuse if I ever heard one. And yes you can fall back in love with your spouse if the marriage is having trouble. I am.
I married young and divorced. I am remarried now and let me tell you... the grass is not greener. I am now all for sticking with your vows......... for better or worse.
The motto is stupid immature justification for not doing the right thing. People have been leaving and cheating on eachother for so long, but it is unfortunate that kids are being subjected to public humiliation of their badly behaved parents. I'm not sure if we can fall back in love with someone or not. A relationship is only as strong as the weakest link. If my dh found a new interest and then wanted to work on ours, I'm pretty sure he would not be given the opportunity for a do over. These new relationships tend to fail because they were started with deceit and not on anything honorable.
Sounds like an "easy" out to me.......
Ya know, for some reason The heart wants what the Heart wants sounds a whole lot like
"People in hell want ice water"??? Don't know why, just brought that to mind....
Love it!
It is sad that it is a trend to sit and trash the cheated on partner on facebook. Because they are not dealing with enough emotions as it is. I think the other woman does this to justify what she did. Not sure why the spouse does not feel guilt, why they do the trashing. My sisters husband did this to her, he cheated with a divorce lawyer. They sue her everytime she sneezes like she is the one who hurt the marriage????
Quoting bjfreeman1:
Ya know, for some reason The heart wants what the Heart wants sounds a whole lot like
"People in hell want ice water"??? Don't know why, just brought that to mind....
Wow, there's just no explaining some people.....
Quoting Sunflower7556:Love it!
It is sad that it is a trend to sit and trash the cheated on partner on facebook. Because they are not dealing with enough emotions as it is. I think the other woman does this to justify what she did. Not sure why the spouse does not feel guilt, why they do the trashing. My sisters husband did this to her, he cheated with a divorce lawyer. They sue her everytime she sneezes like she is the one who hurt the marriage????
Quoting bjfreeman1:
Ya know, for some reason The heart wants what the Heart wants sounds a whole lot like
"People in hell want ice water"??? Don't know why, just brought that to mind....
my heart wants the winning lotto ticket... maybe I should just leave my family and go take it.
To me, that's a quick and easy, albeit lame excuse to leave the relationship! My marrriage has not always been perfect or ideal. But, I love my hub very much and we are each other's soul mates. We are who each other wants, no one else! If you want your marriage to work, it takes time and work! My vows to Ray mean alot to me. Same to him! 
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- Sunflower7556
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:28 PM