need advice

[Deannie1258]

awhiile back my stepdaughter and her boyfriend were living with us she then was about six weeks pregnant. They made messes every night cooking eating stuff in our living room left plates dirty etc for me to clean up the next day. We had just moved I had packed up our whole house by myself. She did her room which boyfriend did most of that. One morning I got up yet more messes I had had enough so I told her that she needed to start picking up after her boy friend and her self. Mind you I am not asking her to lift anything heavy etc I never would.just Pick up after there self when they cooked etc.I told her she was acting like she was to good to do this which she was at the time. She did nothing. Continued to cook etc.we simply asked them to help with groceries charged them no rent and just simply clean up after themselves. Later they moved out. Then she texted her father my husband told him she does not want me to have anything to do with her baby and that I am selfish for asking her to clean up after her boyfriend and her.so as it stands I am not allowed to see her baby are do anything with her although her father knows everything that happened and agrees with me on the whole thing.I have tried talking to her she does not aknoledge me at all.her baby is due in April and she herself does not talk to much of her father's side of the family due to her boyfriend wanting her to only have something to do with his family. Was I wrong in speaking up?

[suzi960]

WERE YOU WRONG?????   UMMM NO....SHE NEEDS TO GROW UP AND FAST......DONT WORRY MOMMA, AFTER SHE HAS HER BABY, YOULL SEE HOW FAST SHE NEEDS HER MOM.......YOU WERE NOT WRONG AT ALL.....

[AnB68]

 nope--and i would obey her wishes--and laugh my ass off at how hard she just made her life..

[letstalk747]

you were not wrong , and same here , when she has her baby i bet things change

[bjfreeman1]

Hell no, you weren't wrong  She'd better get a grip; motherhood is not easy.....

[mumbosauce]

NO ! I would send her a note or a phone message and tell her you love her and want to be part of her life and the babies. She needs her family too. When she see's he's an idiot she will come running back. But all you can do is put it out there.

[love_to_travel]

Absolutely Not. She should have to pick up after herself. Hopefully, after the baby is born she will realize that she needs her mom. It is a little disconcerning that the boyfriend seems to be incouraging her to distant herself from her family. I would encourage you to reach out to her and let her know you are there for her. Should she decide to move back home at anytime it might be a good idea to iron out some house rules. Good Luck!!

[tigger904]

 

Quoting suzi960:

WERE YOU WRONG?????   UMMM NO....SHE NEEDS TO GROW UP AND FAST......DONT WORRY MOMMA, AFTER SHE HAS HER BABY, YOULL SEE HOW FAST SHE NEEDS HER MOM.......YOU WERE NOT WRONG AT ALL.....

 I so agree When she goes into labor lets see how fast she calls for mom.

[Deannie1258]

I have reached out to her told her all these things etc even sent her baby sights that I thought she might be interested in still nothing. I think slotted of it is her boyfriend so unless he's out of the picture I see nothing changing

[Deannie1258]

A lot of it is her boyfriend sorry can't type today

[brighteyes112]

You were not wrong at all! She'll realize just how much she needs you and her dad after she has the baby! Shame on the boyfriend for not wanting her to be around her family!