My 19-year-old dd left me with my grandchild...
I need help, I'm SO stressed right now. My 19 year old dd has been having problems ever since her dad died when she started high school. She would skip school and smoke and party, once I got her help and it seemed she began to attend school again and calmed down. I found she was pregnant at 18 in her senior year after dating a guy for about 2 months and the babys daddy didn't want anything to do with the baby, he said it was her or the baby. She managed to graduate high school and have a baby girl. She has gone back to smoking and partying, but she has managed a part-time job as a cashier and to get an apartment with a friend. Even though I don't like her friend and I didn't approve of the atmosphere my GD was in. I couldn't stop her because she is an adult.
Her daughter is 18 months old now. 4 days ago, she left me with her GD because she had "work". I waited all night for her to come back. She didn't come back. I waited all morning the next day, she didn't come back. Finally today she emailed me.
She pretty much said that my GD's baby-daddy had moved to California, and he called her telling her that he still loved her and he wanted her but he said he didn't want kids or his daughter. She then told me that she never wanted the kid anyway and her life would be much better without her. She was going to California to be with him and she didn't care what I thought.
I went to her old apartment and not even her roommate was there. The apartment was empty, everything was gone.
I'm so stressed. I don't think I could raise another kid, but I feel like it's my responsibility to raise her. What if she turns out just like my dd? I'm also afraid if she comes back and there relationship didn't work out, that's she gonna want her back and she's just gonna toss her to me whenever she doesn't want her. I moved after DD moved out to a smaller apartment, it's only 1 bedroom. GD has been sleeping on futon in the living room. She's so little though.
I really don't know what to do.