If you read my post about my DD who dumped her bf for a 15 year old, then you will have an idea what this is about.
So you know I told my DD to leave our home because of her continued disrespect and constant stealing. Well, I found out it was the 15 year old's parent who came to get her and she stay with them Sunday night. Yesterday, when I tried to find out where she was and if she was at school, she texted me and told her to leave her alone. I left her alone, thinking in a few days she will come home with a different attitude.
Well, lat night about 10pm, my DD comes walking in the house, walks right by me and heads upstairs, I stopped her and asked what she is doing. She replied " Don't worry, I came in to get some things, I'm leaving". After about 30 minutes, she didn't come down, so I go to see what is going on. This is when she starts verbally attacking me. She told me I ruined her chances of staying with two of her friends, that she wants nothing to do with me or the family, doesn't what us at her graduation and to leave her alone. All this was said with a lot of you F!@#$ B!@#$ and rot in hell comments. She even got so mad she kicked my computer screen and started slamming doors.
I go downstairs and call my DH (he is out of town). I told him I have never felt so violated in my life. He told me to leave her alone for the night. Wake her up in the morning and take her to school. This morning when I got her up, she threw another fit with me and told me someone else was coming for her (with more you B!@#$ comments).
During these two altercations, she told me her life was none of my business, I told her when she comes into my world then her life is my business. I told as long as she is there she is to slap on a happy face and fake it.
I don't understand why she is so volatile. In all of this, she did thank me for everything I have done for her and she said she was being sincere. She also said to me that I can't just throw her out without any place to stay (I wouldn't) when she finds a place she will leave.
God help me Please!!
Pawlees
My 17 year old did the same thing both of them..girls they didnt live with me after 17. It is like their brains get rewired around that age. HUGS I have so been there
If she really wants to leave, let her. I know that sounds hard, but I believe that once they find out that it is no fun out there they come back. If the phone is in your name, shut it off. and don't let her leave with anything that is yours. No I wouldn't let mine leave without anywhere to go, but if she is 18 and really wants to leave you can't stop her. And without a phone, car and anything else you pay for, reality will set in. If she is truly thankful for what you have done in the past, she will really be thankful for this. Some times you have to let them go in order to keep them. Good luck.
This exactly:
Quoting wallmom1:If she really wants to leave, let her. I know that sounds hard, but I believe that once they find out that it is no fun out there they come back. If the phone is in your name, shut it off. and don't let her leave with anything that is yours. No I wouldn't let mine leave without anywhere to go, but if she is 18 and really wants to leave you can't stop her. And without a phone, car and anything else you pay for, reality will set in. If she is truly thankful for what you have done in the past, she will really be thankful for this. Some times you have to let them go in order to keep them. Good luck.
wow.. HUGS to you momma.. I say let her go.. Let her get in to trouble, face life on her own for a while. She will come back to you.. She needs to get a big dose of reality first though!
This is so hard but having had to evict my oldest years ago I can understand the pain. We have salvaged our relationship and she is learning to be more independent. I hope that you will be able to rebuild your relationship after she grows up a little and gets past these difficult times.
I'm sorry for you! I wish I had advice... I have all boys and hope they never do this but I doubt it's exclusive behaviour for girls. It would break my heart to be treated by my child like that. I'm so sorry. I agree with the other ladies that said you should let her go. (HUGS)
wat the bloody hell is DD ?distraught daughter. DH define please
DH- dear husband
Quoting per437:wat the bloody hell is DD ?distraught daughter. DH define please
I thought my middle daughter was bad but she has nothing on your daughter. As far as going to graduation if it were me I would go anyways. Just dont make a scene or let her know you are there. You guys deserve to see her graduate. We invest alot into our childrens education. My middle one dropped out in the middle of her Sr year. Good luck to you. I hope she gets her head out of her butt and realizes how much has hurt you.
Congratulations to the class of 2013
- pawlees
on May. 1, 2012 at 3:48 PM