So a friend of mine left her husband which needed to be done he tried to kill himself with a "fake" gun that he made, the cops couldn't believe it. That was the tip of the iceberg, he is a complete thief and lire and slob (pig)! Ugly too. So anyhow...now she is seeing a man that has left his wife to be with her. They work together so have known each other for yrs. This "friend" swears up and down they didn't plan this but she has said some things that make me think they did. I don't know what to think. This man's wife is not very nice either and I already told you a bit about her husband and this new man is so nice, cute, clean and I want my friend to be happy so does it matter? She also doesn't speak to me much any more and that makes me wonder too. It also rubs me wrong that now since she is happier, she acts like I'm not good enough. Is that what happens when people "get a new life"?
It seems to me that 2 marriages just broke up. I would think that matters, sounds like alot of hurt going around. It sounds like your friend's head is in a different place now, literally. Don't worry, it's HER, not you!! You're just trying to be a good friend, it seems to me!
I like to think I'm a friend to her but she has me worried. I know her marriage was full of hurt and her husband was trying to control her again, by shooting himself. He tried to kill himself twice in 4 months, how could she stay with somebody like that? I don't blame her for leaving but it just feels like this other man has something to do with it and I don't know how to feel about that.
Quoting Mariagma3:It seems to me that 2 marriages just broke up. I would think that matters, sounds like alot of hurt going around. It sounds like your friend's head is in a different place now, literally. Don't worry, it's HER, not you!! You're just trying to be a good friend, it seems to me!
Wow, I would've said that it is not your place to judge your friend and that she is an adult but since you have ended with she is pretty much treating you like crap since she is with this new guy.. I don't know what do think. Maybe she is worried about what people thing and is laying low in that sense. If you want to maintain the friendship than I think you should just have a heart to heart with her an tell her that you are her friend outside the relationship with the new guy and the old guy for that matter. That you wish her well and hope to remain friends. Also could be the "newness" of the relationship that she is spedning so much time with him and friends likeyou are taking the back seat, happens all the time .
well him leaving his wife isn't necessarily right, but it her leaving her husband is. her dissing you because of another man isn't right in my book sounds like you've stood by her all along. some women/men just can't seem to get their priorities straight and they both sound like that to me. just be careful you don't get hurt thru all this, or hurt anymore than you already have! stick by your guns and your own convinctions, not that you have to lay your on her! good luck!
Oh I have wished her well and said I hope to him soon...that was 2 months ago...and when she got all funny acting with me. I'm just lost cause I thought that's what I was supposed to do! I'm hurt and miss her and called and left voice mail several times and don't hear back. I sent a text asking her to lunch her next day off 2 wks ago and have not heard from her. I know she's had DAYS off because I have known her for yrs and know how she works and KNOW that has not changed she is a boss and can sorta make her own schedule. I'm confused. I spent days going taking her back and forth to hospitals when the idiot husband tried to kill himself, bought her groceries and gas for her car, took her kid several times. That's what friends do or so I thought. I have told her how cute I think the new man is!? So what have I done wrong and why won't she communicate? I miss her.
Quoting 39holding519:Wow, I would've said that it is not your place to judge your friend and that she is an adult but since you have ended with she is pretty much treating you like crap since she is with this new guy.. I don't know what do think. Maybe she is worried about what people thing and is laying low in that sense. If you want to maintain the friendship than I think you should just have a heart to heart with her an tell her that you are her friend outside the relationship with the new guy and the old guy for that matter. That you wish her well and hope to remain friends. Also could be the "newness" of the relationship that she is spedning so much time with him and friends likeyou are taking the back seat, happens all the time .
Sounds like anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you! She certianly is not being a good friend... have you come right out and asked her if you have done something to offend her? You might need to start focusing on others wo will love & appreciate your friendship.
Quoting bhow:
Oh I have wished her well and said I hope to him soon...that was 2 months ago...and when she got all funny acting with me. I'm just lost cause I thought that's what I was supposed to do! I'm hurt and miss her and called and left voice mail several times and don't hear back. I sent a text asking her to lunch her next day off 2 wks ago and have not heard from her. I know she's had DAYS off because I have known her for yrs and know how she works and KNOW that has not changed she is a boss and can sorta make her own schedule. I'm confused. I spent days going taking her back and forth to hospitals when the idiot husband tried to kill himself, bought her groceries and gas for her car, took her kid several times. That's what friends do or so I thought. I have told her how cute I think the new man is!? So what have I done wrong and why won't she communicate? I miss her.
Quoting 39holding519:
Wow, I would've said that it is not your place to judge your friend and that she is an adult but since you have ended with she is pretty much treating you like crap since she is with this new guy.. I don't know what do think. Maybe she is worried about what people thing and is laying low in that sense. If you want to maintain the friendship than I think you should just have a heart to heart with her an tell her that you are her friend outside the relationship with the new guy and the old guy for that matter. That you wish her well and hope to remain friends. Also could be the "newness" of the relationship that she is spedning so much time with him and friends likeyou are taking the back seat, happens all the time .
Hoped she couldn't tell I was wanting to cry when I asked her face to face! She pretty much blew me off. I know I haven't done anything wrong and that's what hurts so bad...I thought she was my friend too. I'm trying to get by, but she was the only living grown woman I had personal contact with on the same level. Conversing with teenagers is driving me crazy!! OH the drama! When will it end?
Quoting 39holding519:Sounds like anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you! She certianly is not being a good friend... have you come right out and asked her if you have done something to offend her? You might need to start focusing on others wo will love & appreciate your friendship.
Quoting bhow:
Oh I have wished her well and said I hope to him soon...that was 2 months ago...and when she got all funny acting with me. I'm just lost cause I thought that's what I was supposed to do! I'm hurt and miss her and called and left voice mail several times and don't hear back. I sent a text asking her to lunch her next day off 2 wks ago and have not heard from her. I know she's had DAYS off because I have known her for yrs and know how she works and KNOW that has not changed she is a boss and can sorta make her own schedule. I'm confused. I spent days going taking her back and forth to hospitals when the idiot husband tried to kill himself, bought her groceries and gas for her car, took her kid several times. That's what friends do or so I thought. I have told her how cute I think the new man is!? So what have I done wrong and why won't she communicate? I miss her.
Quoting 39holding519:
Wow, I would've said that it is not your place to judge your friend and that she is an adult but since you have ended with she is pretty much treating you like crap since she is with this new guy.. I don't know what do think. Maybe she is worried about what people thing and is laying low in that sense. If you want to maintain the friendship than I think you should just have a heart to heart with her an tell her that you are her friend outside the relationship with the new guy and the old guy for that matter. That you wish her well and hope to remain friends. Also could be the "newness" of the relationship that she is spedning so much time with him and friends likeyou are taking the back seat, happens all the time .
sometimes we grow and it takes us down a different path. Maybe she's just spreading her wings, unfortunately it's not the way she should be but she'll learn...just be there for her, don't feel "left behind" if you truly treasure her as a friend.
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on May. 7, 2012 at 9:36 AM