need your opinion as this is my 1st time

[mamaplus3]

My son just graduated high school and I am unsure if I should just let him go or still maintain SOME control over him. 

Some info on what just recently happened:

He recently took off and no one knew where he was. found him at a friends house after I talk to all his friends online that I am friends with (note I am not friends with all, just the important ones). What he did scared the s**t of me and I do not go thru that again. and Right now he is bucking me until he goes off to college in the fall. (he just graduated from High School)

PS he is 18 going on 19 off to college in the fall.

[Buggy979]

I would set one rule and I did when mine graduated. Just call or text me once a day so I know you are ok.. you need to cut the cord momma.. its time

[mamaplus3]

here's a toughy... how and not cry like a baby?

Quoting Buggy979:

I would set one rule and I did when mine graduated. Just call or text me once a day so I know you are ok.. you need to cut the cord momma.. its time

[VTHaven]

 If he lives in your house...he still needs to abide by YOUR rules. Bottom line. It doesn't matter if he's 18...or 38. I realize he needs to spread his wings and all, but there is this little thing called "respect." He needs to be considerate to let you know when he'll be gone and for how long...or at least check in.

[Buggy979]

I cried my eyes out the day she graduated.. its ok to cry its hard to let them go but if you restrict his new found freedom he maynot want to call in the future when he leaves.. just let him know that you would just appreciate a call or text once or twice a day so you have peace if mind..

Quoting mamaplus3:

here's a toughy... how and not cry like a baby?

Quoting Buggy979:

I would set one rule and I did when mine graduated. Just call or text me once a day so I know you are ok.. you need to cut the cord momma.. its time

[1984Grad]

Quoting mamaplus3:

here's a toughy... how and not cry like a baby?

Quoting Buggy979:

I would set one rule and I did when mine graduated. Just call or text me once a day so I know you are ok.. you need to cut the cord momma.. its time

 

  There is really no way around the crying thing, and it is not a bad thing to let him see that you are.  In my experience it makes them more respectful.  But definitely the call or text thing.  Just so you know, not what he is doing, but that he is ok.  That is all.

[kikitice]

Mine is 13 but I do remember being that age and you are going to have to relax some. He must abide by whatever rules you set, but you must consider when making those rules that he is no longer a child. You'll be o.k. and so will he. 

[MomsTaxiAndATM]

 I know how hard this age is :-( If he is living at home though he needs to follow your rules and keep you informed of his whereabouts ((hugs))

[1984Grad]

  Oh and I forgot:   You will cry again when he goes in the fall.

  Just by a lot of tissue.  (Not LOL)

[dana63]

 If he lives in your house then set the rules you want him to follow.. If he will be gone for the night he needs to text you out of respect. But at 18 he is a legal adult and he can get a summer job and work until he goes off to college..

[mamaplus3]

thank you all... I guess I did not want my little guy to grow up.  :'(  I love him and want what is best for him.  and unfortunely I have 2 more dd to go thru this.