at 40 i did not think "friendship" problems would be an issue. but I really need some advice. My best friend and I have had our ups and downs over the years but the last few really bother me. most recently we were having a conversation on the phine about our husbands, which is normal for us, the topic was how much our husbands drink. she was complaining about her husband and I was complaining about mine then it turned to her saying how my husband was way worse than hers, which that did not offenend me to much,so i mentioned lets do an intervention witht the guys together (something her and her husband did to my husband several years ago) and she said way would we do that to her husband because he is not as bad as mine. then she goes on to say how much she values her and I's friendship but she could careless if my husband was in her life...and said it several times. I just sat there not sure if i heard her right then I changed the subject. the more I thought about it the madder I got. my husband may drink to much from time to time at BBQ's and parties but he has help her and her husband out many times! he has helped them rebuild the fence around their whole back yard at their old house, put in a sprinkler system, helped them turn their garage into a family room, baught and built a fence at their new how when they first moved in and just a month ago spent 2 weekends at their house helping them put up a new pool...just to name a few things. she has always been very judgemental, shallow and tries to make sure she is better than me in some way all the time. I dould go on....i have not spoken to her since it has been over a week I can not stop thinking about it.