See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
............she is NOT my friend!! My relationship with my sister Kelly who is 1 1/2 years younger than me, has always been a love/hate, rocky one! She was the middle child and I am the oldest. We have a younger brother too that we both get along great with. I have come to realize as an adult that my sister has had jealousy issues of me and my life ever since we were kids. This has continued into our adult lives. She tends to compare her life to mine and feels that she falls short in different areas. A few years ago, we got into a huge blowout fight at her son's party, which I felt terrible about. This really altered our relationship after that incident. I didn't trust her the way that I used to and I cut her out of my life for awhile!! We sloooowly got closer again, but I kept her at arm's length. Then on July 4th this year, I called her up and she had been drinking (which usually makes her mood worse) and she verbally attacked me when I did nothing. I swear she is also an undiagnosed bipolar. I felt really bad about this for a few days and then we exchanged several emails that were hurtful. But during these emails I realized that she cannot take accountability for her wrongful actions and she never says that she is sorry. Even when she should be the one apologizing! So I have made my peace that we will never be close again or even friends for that matter. She has too much resentment and jealousy of me for that to happen sadly!! We will still interact a few times per year during holidays and special events for the sake of our children, but otherwise we will not be dealing with each other. No emailing each other, or taking walks together, or phone chats, or family get togethers other than holidays. And I am really truly okay with this now. Unfortunately, Kelly is who she is and will never change. She is a very negative, jealous person with alcohol problems, and a big chip on her shoulder!!
So I am especially thankful for my "sisters" in this group!!! A few of you, I have gotten especially close to, and that really means alot since my one and only sister is not what she should be to me! So thank you sisters for being a caring, helpful, support network for me and a positive sisterhood that I am grateful to be a part of!!!! ((((Hugs)))) to you all. ~ Danielle