I'm on my 4th marriage, and if there is one thing I've learned to recognize, its when I'm being tested. As I posted a few days ago, I was fostering a cat until I could find her a home, and she did a lot of damage to our home, mostly DH's belongings, 2 things that couldn't be replaced.
I brought her to work (animal hospital) until I can find her a home. Last night he said, "I'm not mad at you or the cat, the damage is done, you might as well bring her back here." He said, "she destroyed the only 2 material things I cared about in life so it doesn't matter". OY VEY! Are you kidding me? Yeah, like I would fall for that one. I'd bring her back and he would think I was choosing the cat over him or something along those lines.
No way buddy, this isn't my first rodeo....I know better! LOL