My daughter 17 has had 4 dates in the last two weeks with this boy. Seems nice for the 2 min. I have spent with him at the door. But now he wants to come over and cook dinner for our family. First of,f if you want to do that call and ask when a good day would be, dont tell us you want to come over TONIGHT. Secondly, that seems a bit fast; two weeks and he wants to insert himself into the family meal. This is making me a bit uncomfortable now.
Update...
I didnt find the idea odd.... just that he seems to be rushing things. 4 dates in 2 weeks, just happen to bump into each other at a concert, and now wanting to come make us dinner. That is WAY too much for a 17 yr old boy (any age for that matter). That is odd, too much on the obsessive side for my comfort. If all of this had occurred over the course of a month I wouldnt have odd feelings about it.
Any way, we told them no for tonight but told our daughter that she could invite him over this Saturday afternoon for the pool party we already have planned.
Wait and see how it goes. He may just have had this great idea and the momentum is now. Besides, a) be thrilled that she (and he) are willing to spend time with the parents and b) he may be a decent cook. And you won't have to....cook. Just hope his Mama taught him to clean up too! Good luck
maybe in the future but he isnt coming over tonight... it is a work night for my husband. The kids know that we do not host things on work nights. Friday or Saturday or Sunday afternoon early... but not Monday -Thursday.
It is just that my mama radar went off.... too much too fast for such a young fella.... seems off. He either is obsessive, demanding, or has WAY too much time on his hands. Just doenst sit right with me that a child of 17 would have THAT much time and not be hanging with friends, sport commitments, job, etc. Makes me nervous.
Quoting MaggiesMom208:Wait and see how it goes. He may just have had this great idea and the momentum is now. Besides, a) be thrilled that she (and he) are willing to spend time with the parents and b) he may be a decent cook. And you won't have to....cook. Just hope his Mama taught him to clean up too! Good luck
well, i would have to speak up and let dd know that your not down with the whole him making dinner thing and maybe later on down the road but not right now.. thank him and move on there's got to be more important things that need addressing then this guy... although its nice of him and "if" he is sincere about the whole thing its great, but i cant help but wonder??? maybe its just me, but its to nicey nice.. be careful momma its sounds like you are but that's my advice..
If this ends up a long term thing and he really is just a very nice fella.... then he can do it down the line. agreed!
Quoting sunflowers12:well, i would have to speak up and let dd know that your not down with the whole him making dinner thing and maybe later on down the road but not right now.. thank him and move on there's got to be more important things that need addressing then this guy... although its nice of him and "if" he is sincere about the whole thing its great, but i cant help but wonder??? maybe its just me, but its to nicey nice.. be careful momma its sounds like you are but that's my advice..
I think you are making way too much out of this. Maybe he just wants to meet you. Maybe he is thinking he is making a good impression. Maybe that is how His family does things. I would be much more worried if he wanted to do something without the parents.
This is totally something one of my sons would have done at that age. They would think they were being nice. They would think hey everyone eats everyday. They would not give it a thought that is was doing something bad or wrong
It could be that he was raised to want to meet the parents of a girl he likes..
Also, how long has your daughter known him? If they've known each other for a long time, maybe they aren't thinking about it in the same context you are.
Hope he's a good one!
in my house hold, the boys have to ask the girls' parents if he is allowed to date their daughter. yes aweward but at the same time, at least the parents know their daughter is even dating at all, seen it to many times. so I have had plenty of boys in this house, on purpose, so we can get a feel for them. I would say not a bad idea if dd is ok with it, as you may get a better feel for him and then can tell her he can continue to see her, or hit the curb!
hey maybe he wants to be a chef and this is just his way of showing off for you.... I do agree it's a bit on the "to soon" side tho... maybe make a date with him (via dd) for a night you all can agree on.
I totally agree. It is a great way to meet the family and keep yourself busy.
Quoting valkay:
I think you are making way too much out of this. Maybe he just wants to meet you. Maybe he is thinking he is making a good impression. Maybe that is how His family does things. I would be much more worried if he wanted to do something without the parents.
This is totally something one of my sons would have done at that age. They would think they were being nice. They would think hey everyone eats everyday. They would not give it a thought that is was doing something bad or wrong
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