I cant believe my sil letting her dh do all this, it isnt his place to do, they dont seem to be talking much to my fil in all of this, and my dhs sisters have already decided to have the money split 3 ways ( siblings ) my dhtold his dad today that my fil may need that money ( if the house was sold) so he wont be agreeing to it at all, i just cant believe family plans all this out without thinking of the big picture just what is best for themselves,
Sorry for this rant i m trying to be supportive of my dh ( and not be a witchy thing over what his sisters are doing, he dontneed to hear it) i d really like to go over there and tell them both what i think of them, no it wouldnt do any good anyway! So glad my dh is looking out for his dad ( yep i told him) my dh saw what two of my 3 sisters did after i lost my mom ( and he was supportive of me) i m trying to return that and it has been So hard! Thank you all for listening and hugs
Bump so I can read when I get back from the store and running to moms... Hugs
Family can be so terrible when it comes to money and greed..
I learned this when my Grandmother passed and how
many vultures were there waiting.. poeple who never
came around before,, were all the sudden there to watch her
die of cancer.. My Grandma was wise and forsaw this..
she set up her will... made me Executor and taught them all a
lesson.. lots more went on too much to explain.. and it cost my
Brother lots.. and he was the good guy.. but foolish one
all and all. I guess it is good... I take care of my Dad.. the Way
Grams wanted and I don't let the Greedy Drama queens back in
Have your FIL take steps now ... Don't wait.. They will eat you
alive if they cann.. drive your husband nuts.. I feeel for your..
sorry but this is true.. SORRY..
This is unbelievable...first...does your FIL want to sell and if he does he will need that money for housing, medical expenses since his health could deteriorate etc. The only word that comes to mind is vultures and I am glad that your husband is watching out for his dad.
ah I have been there.. we finally had to just let things go. We sold out, told everyone good luck they can fight over everything and we packed up and left.. My dh siblings are still fighting over there moms stuff and she is still alive.. I didnt not want my kids involved in that so we left. When my fil passed away he had given my ds 2 head of hiefers, a gun and a college fund. My dh siblings sued my son for it all.. instead of fighting we gave it all to them.. all but the gun... I finally got tired of my dh and ds taking of grandma and doing all her farm work for her and getting nothing.. so we moved away.. MIL has lost her farm, due to her other lazy children. BUT they all still want her money... Glad we are not part of htat..
My family!!
That is horrible.. I have been there too... Thank God Grandma saw this
coming.. she did a Estate Living with me as Executor and myself and
my brothers as owners.. my Dad gets to live there the rest of his life
the Evil Ex Wife got nothing .. Grandma knew that if she put Dad in charge
she would trick him and she would get everything in a divorce and leave him
high and dry... (My Dad can't read or write).... My Grandma won.. but at a
great cost.. my one brother was a weaker link.. the EX step saw this and she
found her way .. to trick and goat him.. needless to say he is in jail now
I think you did the right thing.. not worth it.. I miss my brother.. he was the one who always worked the farm...me and the other two helped but not
like him...
BUT if you could have seen the Evil EX Step.. Livid she was.. she knew she
would get nothing.. she sreamed "if I can't have it NO one will".. well she
tried.. but did not succeed... for the most part.. still I wonder if what Grandma told me once would have been better..
That she should have kept her other little two acres and sold the farm..
My Grandma hugged me one time and said.. you have a long road ahead
of you.. I did not know what she meant I do now..
Once she was diagnosed with cancer the following year.. I knew all too well
the vultures swarmed and tried to even be her caregiver.... My Grandma
already had me in place... I didnot know the extent people like my step
mom would take.. OOPS EVIL EX Step.. would take.. but I do now
she had help.. other family members that were not in the Will.. thought they
should be band against us and helped... it was ugly.
Yes I think you did the right thing.. wish I could have.. had to protect my Dad
Quoting crazynut:ah I have been there.. we finally had to just let things go. We sold out, told everyone good luck they can fight over everything and we packed up and left.. My dh siblings are still fighting over there moms stuff and she is still alive.. I didnt not want my kids involved in that so we left. When my fil passed away he had given my ds 2 head of hiefers, a gun and a college fund. My dh siblings sued my son for it all.. instead of fighting we gave it all to them.. all but the gun... I finally got tired of my dh and ds taking of grandma and doing all her farm work for her and getting nothing.. so we moved away.. MIL has lost her farm, due to her other lazy children. BUT they all still want her money... Glad we are not part of htat..
Oh My Goodness.. I think I see her.. she's the one on the Left.. 
Thank you..I needed that...
this nearly drove me Crazy.. I did not know people were like
this..until my Grandma was diagnosed
. My Dad, Brother's and I did not even get to grieve my Grandma's death
they were poncing and diving even before the funeral..... I just can't believe it
still today.. I sure would not like to be them when they Go to Meet Our Maker..
I wonder do people think of this when they act this way.. I sure do.. I would
never treat another human being this way.. I know what God would have
for me once I get there.. and If has nothing to do with the money and greed
they want now.. Good Grief.....
Quoting firelites:I also have inlaws like this
i think i did my kids an injustic... packing them up and moving them away from the farm... honestly farm life is the best life... I was just to selfish and couldnt handle the drama..but watching my dh and ds work there butts off on the farm and get nothing was driving me nuts... my dh worked a day job putting in over 10 hours and then would come yhome and work the farm for 4 to 5 hours... they only thing he got...was his sibling wanting what his dad left our ds,,, and his mom was ok with the other siblings taking her grandson to court over in my opinion... chicken feed!!! Money brings out the worst in people.. specially people who think they are entitled..
Quoting angduse1:
That is horrible.. I have been there too... Thank God Grandma saw this
coming.. she did a Estate Living with me as Executor and myself and
my brothers as owners.. my Dad gets to live there the rest of his life
the Evil Ex Wife got nothing .. Grandma knew that if she put Dad in charge
she would trick him and she would get everything in a divorce and leave him
high and dry... (My Dad can't read or write).... My Grandma won.. but at a
great cost.. my one brother was a weaker link.. the EX step saw this and she
found her way .. to trick and goat him.. needless to say he is in jail now
I think you did the right thing.. not worth it.. I miss my brother.. he was the one who always worked the farm...me and the other two helped but not
like him...
BUT if you could have seen the Evil EX Step.. Livid she was.. she knew she
would get nothing.. she sreamed "if I can't have it NO one will".. well she
tried.. but did not succeed... for the most part.. still I wonder if what Grandma told me once would have been better..
That she should have kept her other little two acres and sold the farm..
My Grandma hugged me one time and said.. you have a long road ahead
of you.. I did not know what she meant I do now..
Once she was diagnosed with cancer the following year.. I knew all too well
the vultures swarmed and tried to even be her caregiver.... My Grandma
already had me in place... I didnot know the extent people like my step
mom would take.. OOPS EVIL EX Step.. would take.. but I do now
she had help.. other family members that were not in the Will.. thought they
should be band against us and helped... it was ugly.
Yes I think you did the right thing.. wish I could have.. had to protect my Dad
Quoting crazynut:ah I have been there.. we finally had to just let things go. We sold out, told everyone good luck they can fight over everything and we packed up and left.. My dh siblings are still fighting over there moms stuff and she is still alive.. I didnt not want my kids involved in that so we left. When my fil passed away he had given my ds 2 head of hiefers, a gun and a college fund. My dh siblings sued my son for it all.. instead of fighting we gave it all to them.. all but the gun... I finally got tired of my dh and ds taking of grandma and doing all her farm work for her and getting nothing.. so we moved away.. MIL has lost her farm, due to her other lazy children. BUT they all still want her money... Glad we are not part of htat..
My family!!
I just don't understand all the fighting when the person isn't even dead yet.
I see this coming when my mil dies...(she rents an apt from us..above our garage)...she's already told me what her daughters get...and then we are to lock the door and not let anyone in......and yes we will be paying for the funeral....just like we did with fil.
and not even a thank you.
Congratulations to the class of 2013
This Is Not a Sandwich
- mrgetinold
on Feb. 16, 2013 at 4:57 PM