Just joined and wanted to introduce myself. I'm relatively new to chatting online to begin with, only about 18 or so months and brand new to cafemom. I haven't read any of the other intros here so I don't know how much exact personal info is given in relation to actual name. I did read on the section about joining this group that it is private but that there is one part that isn't, so if anyone can help me understand how that works, I would appreciate the help.
My screen name is SunRei17 which in itself actually gives some personal info :)
I live in the western part of the US and grew up in a large family. I had my 1st child, a son, when I was a teenager. I married (not my 1st born dad) and had my oldest daughter when my son was 2 1/2. A year later I had another son who died 3 days later while he and I were both still in the hospital. A year later I had another daughter and 4 years after that I had my youngest son.
I was a divorced mom who ended up raising my children w/o any financial help from my ex from the time my youngest of 4 kids was 2 yrs and my oldest was 12. I do clerical/secretarial work and am involved with political actions that involve the line of work I am employed by.
After my divorce, I was married (common-law with a ceremony) to a wonderful man for 7 years but he died of a heart attack the day after my second child graduated from high school.
My "nest" became empty just a couple of years ago and am rediscovering myself with all of the extra time I now have. I am in a relationship with a wodower who also has 4 adult kids. I thought dealing with my adult step kids was the most difficult thing I ever had to deal with. I thought.
Unfortunately, the most difficult thing ever was and is the death of my youngest son who died in a car accident just a little over a year ago. He was 21 years old and the grief is still very raw. My son lived his life knowing he was loved and he in return loved back. He had a packed church at his services and my favorite thing lately has been discovering pictures of my son that I've never seen before or hearing stories about him from his friends.
This loss has been not just mine, but his friends and of course my other children's. This last year I have been worrying about them and come to realize that they have been worrying about me.
So that brings me to where I am now. I promised my kids that I would get out more and just live.
That's pretty much all for now. Thank you for adding me to this group. I look forward to cyber meet my 40ish and above sisters and getting to know all of you!