Our day of reckoning & have you dealt with this?
Our dad passed away April 5th. Our sm didn't want us to come to the hospital to say good-bye. She didn't want us at the house. She didn't want the extended family at the funeral, but it was packed so not everyone could get in the church. She didn't want us involved in any of the planning for the service. She verbally attacked my sister later that night in front of my 14 year old niece. We were a very close family and always spent holidays together and spoke all the time on the phone.
We sent her a letter requesting items from the estate. Only a small portion of his personal possessions and not a lot of monetary value. We gave her a date to respond by, which is today. We heard from an attorney, but she was not in agreement with most of what we asked for. We only asked for things that were his before their marriage. There is no will. She inherits house, bank accounts and vehicles.
We have learned we are legally entitled to 25% of what they purchased together, which includes a household of new, very nice furnishings. We don't want it, but have to include everything that was a personal possession, whether singularly or jointly owned without a title or deed. Now we have to file a formal probate case on Monday, and can't believe it because it's stupid to fight, and spend thousands of dollars. Have any of you dealt with a situation like this before and how did it turn out for you?