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40ish and beyond... 40ish and beyond...

My 6 year old!!!! ARGH

Posted by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 2:17 PM
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Ok so I have never been so frusterated with a whole situation in my life.

When my dd was 2 years old she got into an accident and had to have surgery.  For over 3 hours she was made to stay in her crib and the doctor said I could not hold her.  Once they finally let me hold her she stopped the screaming and crying.  This moment I believe gave her a lot of trama ...but now that she is 6 and going to be in 1st grade next year they don't want to see that.

They want to mark her with Autism - now aspbergers.  Which I am ok if that means she gets the help she needs.  My problem with it is that the schools are not helping her at all - last year towards the end we ended up having to pick her up a lot because she would run around the school, take her clothing off whatever she could do to go home. 

I am just at my wits end with her.  I feel totally helpless and no one in the school system seems to want to help me with her.  Anyone else had this? 

She can be such a sweetie very carrying - aka if she sees I am upset she will come up give me a hug and then tell me thing everything is going to be ok. 

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ALolies
by Red Room Rebel on Jun. 25, 2013 at 2:27 PM

I have not and can be of no help. But I can send you a virtual hug...

atlmom2
by Susie on Jun. 25, 2013 at 2:50 PM
Get her to the doctor for an eval and see what they suggest.
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looneymom424
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 2:59 PM
I took my daughter to get an eval so they couldnt label her...some kids have to have less kids in the classroom was she in a regular class room? I had to go to the school district to get my daughter in the right classes.. I taught her to read myself they couldnt..
Bleacheddecay
by Gold Sister -lp on Jun. 25, 2013 at 3:15 PM

Have you considered a more specialized school to help with her issues or homeschooling? Is she under a doctors care? One for counseling. Another for meds or therapy?

mom_dl6
by Miss Mary Belle on Jun. 25, 2013 at 3:18 PM

Oh Goodness happy

                         


JC2223
by Bronze sister on Jun. 25, 2013 at 3:22 PM

 Most times it's best to have your child evaluated privately with specialized professionals. Schools get funding for special needs programs so the more children they get to qualify, the more money they get.

Start with your pediatrician, they can lead you to the correct specialists to help you and especially her.

celtic5544
by Sister on Jun. 25, 2013 at 3:24 PM

I have brought her into a counselor and they pegged her Autistic 10 min after meeting her. 

I have brought her to her primary and told them the counselor suggested that it was Autism and had suggested mood stabolizers and they said no.

She is quite smart - before entering K she knew her ABC's and knew how to write them.  COunted to 100 and by 10 to 100 - could do 10 - 1 - knew what an oval, octagon and trapazoid was.  By the end of this year she has read small books.  

problems are I am not a SAHM so I can not do homeschooling and now she is starting to have issues at daycare too along with school.  So I am really up in the air on what I can do

starlight1968
by 40ish hang out queen on Jun. 25, 2013 at 10:07 PM

 hugs..

wishbearmom
by Ruby sister on Jun. 25, 2013 at 11:50 PM

A public school is required to provide an IEP for your child, and you must be present when it is written (and revised annually). Remember, you are your child's best and staunchest advocate. Don't let anyone put your child on the back burner.

Maida265
by Spanking the Monkey on Jun. 26, 2013 at 6:47 AM

 I have a dd who is on the spectrum...and I know it's a very difficult battle to fight. However, a school is NOT obligated to provide services until an actual diagnosis is made by a licensed psychologist.

Did you say she had a comlete psych eval? If not...request one to be done immediately. Also...she won't qualify for an IEP unless she meets certain standards showing that her disability negatively impacts 3 aspects of her learning. With my dd it was very difficult to determine this because like your dd...she is very bright. Academically she can hold her own, but socially and behaviorally she was having issues.

I'm very sorry you are having such a tough time but perhaps a behavioral consultant or therapist could help with addressing your concerns with her so that there is something written and consistent to be followed. Kids who are on the spectrum do not think like your average child and therefore the approach to disciplining or raising them has to be different.

I also believe that all the moving you have done has impacted your child's sense of belonging. A child really does need a place to plant their roots so they can grow. I believe you mentioned somewhere about moving a lot and therefore your dd hasn't had that sense of belonging.

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