Update: My dh is away this week (it's been in the works for 2 years and he is unable to cancel). My father has been taken off regular food to pureed and all medications have been stopped. On top of that my mom asked if dh would be a pall bearer. I asked him and he declined. He feels that he cannot physically nor mentally do it. I understand that but just once some help would be nice. As for asking his mother myself...she and I do not get along. She butts her nose into every aspect of our business whether asked or not. She is the reason for most of our arguments not related to money.
My father is terminally ill. He's been fighting stage 4 glioblastoma (brain cancer). I've done a very good job of holding it together. I'm starting to lose it tho. My brother visits, helps my mom with the yard etc. whenever he shows up my sister in law is in tow. Whenever I go to anything from hospice meetings, funeral arrangements etc my dh doesn't go. I'm frustrated an feel like he's being as ass. Yes, I know our boys are younger but his mom (who lives next door) could watch them for a couple hours do I don't have to handle this on my own all the time. Am I over reacting?