I'm a recovering people pleaser. I often times put other people's happiness above my own...and we know that's not healthy. I met this person I went to HS with on facebook back in the fall. We seemed to click as friends. She isn't married, but divorced and lives alone. I on the other hand have four children, albeit all grown but two still live home. This online Facebook relationship became an "on the phone for 2 hours every night" kind of relationship. I blame myself for not setting my boundaries from the start. She also was emailing me complaining about her job, her landlord all the time.
I have had my own personal issues to deal with and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I told this person after listening to her for 6 months that I needed to take a mental health break and why. She understood.
Here's my dilema. She lives in another state and is coming up to visit soon. She announced on Facebook she will be at this restaurant on a certain day and time and her friends are setting up an "event" on FB...so I was invited and to be quite honest I don't want to go. I also need to mention that last week I sent her out a nice email just to say hi since I haven't really spoken to her in well over a month. She responded with a VERY lengthy email. I responded back and she didn't reply. I thought she didn't get the email so I sent it again with no reply. At this point I feel she is being rude. I probably will not go to this event. What are your thoughts?