My friend and I have daughters in the same grade but a year apart (mine 12, hers turning 11). We were girl scout leaders together. Our girls were friends because we were but her daughter has run towards the teen years while my daughter is strolling there. My daughter has asked not to play with her.... meaning dont set up playdates as babysitting (we did this to help each other out). My friend told me when her daughter's bday party was and asked if my daughter was available. I should have said I dont know let me check the calendar but I wasnt thinking and said my daughter was available. We got the evite and there are 8 boys invited and 8 girls invited. My daughter flat out told me she was uncomfortable with this. Actually Im fine with a co-ed party (they are going ice skating) but my daughter said she was uncomfortable.
would you decline letting your friend know why?
would you ask your daughter to reconsider since it is ice skating so she wouldnt have to interact with the boys and it would prevent us from having to let the mom know we were uncomfortable with how quickly her daughter is becoming a teen?
I know what I would prefer to do.... but was curious what others thought.