I got marry july 27,2002. Separated 2005, Divorce was finalized 2010. I've been very protective of my heart have not had a boyfriend only male friends. Im not missing him or nothing like that its just he put me though so much pain by lying,cheating,joke about me being fat but claim he loves me im free from him our kids are 22,15,and 9 . Why cant i allow myself to open my heart to love again. He remarried 2010. I want to try the dating thing but I use work,school and kids as a excuse ..Help!!!