This is actually a double post. I posted in the grandma forum, but did not get a response ...
I am having mixed emotions about this because I am 43 and my 18 year old unmarried daughter just announced she is pregnant. I am sad, angry, scared and even a little excited at times ... although that feeling is short lived and rare. I found out a week ago and I am scared to death to tell my parents. How do you tell your 63 year old mom she is about to be a great grandma. It was hard enough 23 years ago when I announced at 39 she was going to be a grandma. Honestly I do not know how to tell her that the family curse lives on ... my daughter is the 6th generation of second daughter to have a baby at 19. Weird huh?
It is hard to be happy and excited when you know the long hard road they have chosen and there is nothing you can really do except support them and try to do your best to help and guide them a long the way.
Oh my youngest is 7 years old too.... that is part of my depression here. I have ALWAYS had a baby. I just wanted a little break between kids and grandkids.
So here I am looking for advice and encouragement, which I am not really getting from my sisters. My husband is being great and has his moments of shock and disbelief, but is definitely handling this better than I am. I am planning to wait until after the holidays to tell my parents, but I know what their reaction will be. Not good.
I should probably add because we do not have much money. My husband makes enough to pay the bills and stuff, but we dont do a lot extra becaues we dont have a lot extra. So my son and oldest daughter are forever going to them asking for this or that ... new cell phones, clothes, money etc ... and I know they are thinking this is just going to be another baby we cant afford to have. But the one who is pregnant has never asked them for anything. Ever. She is perfectly content with what she has. And I should also just point out that they are not asking for NEEDS, they are asking for wants. They all have cell phones and clothes... they just want more.