Update: give me your advice on how to handle this Teacher!
My DS is in middle school and while in class his teacher walked up to him and snatched his glasses off of his face and got real close and said in a loud voice "I Don't allow sunglasses in my room!" He had on transition lenses that darken if sitting near a sunny window, which he was. The whole class was calm, no disruption, no problems everyone was reading. He tried to tell her about the glasses but she told him to sit down and read his book! He was embarrassed/humiliated so he sat quietly and looked down until class was over and when he asked for the glasses back she said their mine until the end of the year! she was grading papers and when he said they are prescription glasses she said nice try and dismissed him to his next class. luckily our neighbor next door (cute little sassy blond) said "put them to your eyes he,s practically blind" to the teacher. the Teacher did and had her give him his glasses. NO apology the next day in class but she did not tell him to remove them again either.
I heard about it from our Neighbor later the next day, her daughter told her. I asked DS was that why he was so quite the last couple of days? and he asked me not to make a big deal she (teacher) already doesn't like him. I asked why? and he said she don't like the brown kids (he is the only AA kid in class and 1 of maybe10 at the school)... What would you do? I want to beat this B*&^% @$$!!!!! but don't want to be THAT MOM!
If i told my husband he would flip out on her. My DS is Biracial and has never experienced something like this before. Please help me avoid being in the news for kicking a teachers ASS! what do you suggest?
Thank you for all of your responses! I was seeing red and was not going to react positively.
What she did was the talk of the school and apperently some homes too. A few more parents also called to inform me of the situation. My DS is very polite and respectful so they knew something wierd was going on there.
I emailed the Teacher and had a meeting with her and my son together yesterday.
She was defensive at first explaining her zero tolerance policy for breaking school rules blah blah blah, but did admit that she had crossed the line. My son told her he felt humiliated and scared when the incident happened. She tried to explain again she was only controlling her class but i interrupted and mentioned that we all know, no one at school should ever put hands on other people possessions or bodies. Soon after that point I told DS to go outside the room and i talked alone with the teacher. I explained that i would be taking the issue to the principle and superintendent if we could not resolve it here and now. My son was assaulted and deserved an apology and should never be treated like that again. I was calm and i think that scared her more than if i were irate. She went out to him. brought him back into the class to apologized and give him a hug. I don't know if it was sincere (i hope it was) but it sure made my son feel better and i feel better too.
I have my little spy-girl in the class so I will know if retaliation is happening.
My heart was broken when i fould out and I was ready to strike out.. Your suggestion made me laugh ,think and finally do the right thing.
I am now ready for a wonderful rest of the school year!
A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after. ~Peter De Vries
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