I'm new to this group and making this post is so hard to do.
Two years ago my stepfather was diagnosed with prostate cancer. It was caught very early so the possibly that he could beat it was extremely high.
Since my mom has given me as little information as possible. I know she is just trying to be the strong-willed protective mother she has always been.
In the past couple of years he has gone through treatments, multiple surgeries, and a host of other health issues.
I knew he had 2 blood clots in his thigh that were removed. One of his kidneys and several other procedures but still I really didn't know how bad it really is.
A few months ago I found out the truth. My mom called me late in the evening which she never does unless it is important. I knew something bad had happened but I was completely sure what. When I answered she was crying. I've seen my mom cry but she has always protected me as best as she could.
For the first time in my life my mom was completely unguarded and so scared. All she could say at first was "I'm not ready to bury him. He is my everything and I'm not ready."
During this call she was completely honest. I found out that not only is he battling prostate cancer but 4 different types of cancer and they all are spreading rapidly. Especially the newest cancer in his lungs. His oncologist said he has never seen 4 different cancers in the same patient at the same time. Everytime they do a biopsy they find a different cancer.
The chemotherapy has stopped it had to it was killing him faster than the cancers.
I know my mom and stepfather will fight this till the day he takes his last breath. I know he is a fighter and so strong willed. I know he won't except defeat and neither will my mom.
As I type this I feel so helpless. I live 14 hours from my parents and I'm all the family they have left. I want to hug my mom and tell her everything is going to be fine. He will beat this.
I do everything I can to help. I took over all their bills so my mom could quit her job. I want her to spend every single moment that she has left with him.
I lost my father almost 3 yrs ago and the pain is still unbearable. Now watching my stepdad slowly die I don't know how to handle this.
I'm a mom of 8. I have the most amazing husband. He lets me just cry and holds me tight.
Of course just like my mom I shield my children as much as I can.
Today is the hardest day I have had since his diagnosis.
Thank you for reading this. I haven't opened up to anyone besides my husband.
on Aug. 30, 2012 at 3:11 PM