Hello my name is Linda, I'm sort of new to CafeMom's. I have a 15 yr old son who was diagnosed with PDD officially at the age of three. He's High Functioning. I'll try to make this as short as possible though its a long story.
School for our son has been pretty smooth with the expected hiccups. He started high school last year at a prep school. His first year went well until he and his social worker had a misunderstanding about a story he wrote her. My son has been writing kind of abstract stories since he was 8 yrs old. The stories are mash-ups of whatever he is into, cartoons, star wars, video games, science fiction, weather etc and he'd very proud to share his writing. It's his way of socializing. If he likes someone he shares his writing with them.
So...being new to his High School and having trouble adjusting to his new social worker, who admits she doesn't quite understand autism, he decided to share one of his stories with her. It was a star wars mash-up including words like "sharp shooter" which is normal to most of us who know him. He also gave her a story about the winter, frost bite and freezing...which in his mind is funny. His social worker reading between lines that weren't there thought he was threatening her. After a lot of stuff, she decided that our son should not write certain stories and she gave him a list of rules for writing. He seemed fine with it but he wasn't. This happened November of last year. In April of this year he started having meltdowns. He's been severly depressed and trying to hurt himself. He also blames me and his dad for his pain because we reprimanded him for the situation, which I realize now we handled totally wrong. Being near us depresses him as well.
We've had to take him to so many places since August, looking for a therapist with experience in autism but there is a waiting list so long...we had to act quickly. So we took him to a therapist who subscribed celexa, then suggested hospitalization because my son was having suicidal ideation. I was against it but later agreed to a day program. The program's therapist discharged him after four days because she said the program wasn't right for him. She didn't understand why he was there because it was clear to her his behaviour was due autism and that he needed a program like that. Same thing I'd said but every place we took him kept suggesting hospitalization. She also said that his social worker over-reacted and should allow him to write because he needs it.
But Here we are today still with no answers or real help. He is still hitting himself when he's frustrated saying he hates himself. Psychologists still suggesting if he gets worse, put him in a hospital. What do we do? Where can we get help?
What I see is regression, he is acting like he did when he was very little when he could not express himself.