I have a son that turned 18 yesterday and my concerns of Asperger's have recently been confirmed by his therapist. My family & I have suspected for years but circumstances prevented me from being able to fully explore this. He is seeing a psychiatrist for anxiety & depression and has been treated for ADD in the past and is currently seeing a counselor for teenage-life issues who finally confirmed to me she believed it was Asperger's. He must be somewhat mild because his psychiatrist (who doesn't think it is Asperger's) points out that he has good eye contact. Still, he has so many other characteristics that I am convinced. He is extremely immature, doesn't seem to recognize when others are ready for him to stop talking (although he will say he talks too much and gets down on himself but can't seem to stop talking), speaks in a monotone voice, takes breath between words and between syllables sometimes, extremely intelligent and knowledgeable so he blurts out answers and information in class leaving the teacher exasperated and other students annoyed with him. "Shut up Jesse - nobody likes you!" When he is around others, his comments are oftentimes off-the-wall and difficult for other people to get him. At a young age (before he even started school), he was tested by the school district (I can't remember what event led to this) and they said his 35-word sentence was high for his age. When he is interested in a subject, it dominates his thoughts sometimes. It used to be dinosaurs, now it's a band. But whatever he is interested in at that time, he gets carried away with it. And he knows every movie, actor, movie line, etc. and has for years. I don't know if movies are his escape from reality. Also now it's the rapper Eminem and his lyrics and what they really mean. He is a horrible procrastinator. He was an Advanced Placement student who took dual-credit college classes the fall semester of his senior year (which he failed miserably) because he kept putting off the work. By the end of his senior year, he was failing 5 classes but brought every one of them up to B's and C's in the last six weeks. It was such a stressful year for me. He graduated 2 weeks ago and turned 18 yesterday. I was hoping maturity would be on his side but after our visit to the junior college campus this week, I don't know that he'll ever be any different. He likes to hang on me & push my buttons but he says he doesn't act that way around his friends (he's never really had friends until the last few months of his senior year). His dad & I are divorced. His dad is also frustrated with Jesse but in a way feeds Jesse's behaviors because he is the same way and it has taken me a while to realize that I also suspect some type of Asperger's in him. He can't stop talking and alienates everyone - he will follow someone around and talk even when that person is annoyed. He seems to be clueless. They are two peas in a pod and I get so frustrated because I can't relate to them. Now I'm the bad guy and Jesse wants to be at his Dad's house more than mine because I no longer know how to parent Jesse at this age. He's not a child and I can't get him to grow up. I don't know how to help him and his dad is no help. To be honest, spending time with him has become a chore for me. He is so taxing. He's 6 feet of little boy but now that he's 18, he is rebeling and lashing out at me because I don't want him hanging on me in church or swinging me around at the mall or talking about movies all of the time. I want to have an adult relationship with him and he just thinks I'm a grumpy, stressed old lady. I feel like a horrible mother. Help.