Basic question about a part of married life. Do you like or dislike your inlaws and why?
I am a horrible human... I tolerate my mother-in-law, from a distance. But I do not like her.
My own mother's parents were already dead when she met my father. I sometimes envy my dad for that.
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I was thinking about this question because my in laws came to visit a couple of weeks ago. OMG, had to be one of the longest weeks ever. To answer the question, Nope, I don't like my inlaws. I did once, before my husband and I got married and had a son. Basically his mom talks about the family behind backs, she is never wrong, everyone else is. And frankly, when they visited they were lazy and yucky...I won't get into it too much, but nope I deal for my husband's sake.
Well, I love my mother in law......she was best friends with my mom for over 20 years...She is really great...
Now her daughters..........nasty..crack usinig....acholic...baby making non caring.
My FIL (they're divorced)..nasty...acholic.
Both my BIL are great.
I don't know what happened to the girls...they're just awful most of the time. My FIL really isn't any trouble any longer...all he does is drink and smoke.
Actually, yes. I do like my in-laws. My hubby's family may be a little redneck-y, but they certainly don't interfere with our lives, or tell us what we should or shouldn't be doing. They are great to hang out with, we always have a good time when we visit and they love our kids. (wanted us to have kids a long time ago LOL)
I got lucky in the in-law department....
I love my Mother-in-law...she has her moments but I really do love her as a person and as my MIL. My FIL (who isn't married to MIL) is an odd man..I don't get him but tolerate him and respect him.
Just recently (this past Friday) my MIL was diagnosed with Mesotheleoma and was told she has 3-6 months to live. She is an amazing women and Mother to my husband. My prayers go out to her and my husband during this difficult time.
If you dislike or even hate your MIL..take a second to appreciate them for bringing your husband into this world. Life it toooooo short to live with hate or regret.
I love my MIL because she was the one that introduced me to her son. My FIL and MIL are amazing peopleand I thank them both for raising a wonderful son. When I was going through hard time before meeting their son they took me in. I was only having problems with my ex but that got out of hand and I needed a place where my ex couldn't find me. So they let me live there. Well it turned out to be a blessing. Don't get me wrong I agrue with his mom from time to time but it is better to get things out in the open then to hold them in. I have never been one to hold my tongue. She knew what she was getting from the beginning seeing as how she had been my boss for close to a year prior.
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My wonderful husband Chris married Feb 28, 2009
Amiel Edward EDD 12-30-09
It has taken me almost 12 years to say I like my inlaws. My MIL is full of energy and honestly that is the most annoying thing about her. She never shuts up and never sits down. She rarely hears anything anybody else says. The first 6 years of marriage, I swear, everytime we were about to get busy my MIL would call. I swore she had zip'dar. On the plus side, she is an awesome grandmother and has really made an effort to respect me as a mother and wife. I can get over everything else as long as she does this!
As for SIL...I've learned, never tell her anything because she will run and tell her mother. ha ha
Quoting MomofFour232629:
them for bringing your husband into this world. Life it toooooo short to live with hate or regret.
My prayers go out to your MIL and family during this hard, terrible time. You are right too, it is too short to live with hate or regret. But a large reason for my dislike (not hate) is that when my son was very sick at 6 weeks old. He was in the hospital and almost died. He had emergency surgery, and thank goodness he is alright now. But while my son was recovering from surgery, my MIL sat there and blamed me for him getting sick, blamed me for everything that was going on. Long story short, I have forgiven certain things, I have gotten over a lot of things and had to go to a support group for children with pyloric stenosis. But the fact is that our relationship was ruined that day. I have no regrets about how I feel. I won't ever hate her, I feel sorry for her in a lot of respects, and I am glad that she had her son. But she pushed me away, and I can't ever completely forget. When I was in desperate need for someone to help me and console me, she was terrible. My family lived over 1000 miles away, and I really did need someone.
Initially I could not stand my inlaws and I am sure the feeling was fairly mutual! However, as I get older, I seem to be more adept to see things from someone elses prospective and my feelings have mellowed.
I guess the fact that a family tiff left my kids without those Grandparents for a couple of years was what put things into prospective. My sister-in-law has alot to answer for, the eternal instigator.
Anyway, today we have a healthy relationship and although I will always have differing opinions, I now understand what it is to be a parent, and understand that we are allowed to disagree and still maintain a healthy mutual respect. Today...Yes, I do like my in laws.
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- Tam_n_Fam
on Oct. 18, 2009 at 2:49 PM