How does stocking stuffing work in your household?
Dh grew up that if you were there on Christmas morning you got a stocking. If you weren't there Christmas morning you did not get a stocking. As far as my family, my parents were not divorced and I'm an only child so it was never even a question.
So here in lies the question. SS12, is coming the day AFTER Christmas. It is suppose to be our Christmas but he has chosen to spend it with his mom and we aren't going to fight him b/c that never turns out good. So here is the question, he will get all of his presents and we spend the same $$ amount on him as we spend on his brother DS4, and sister, DD4mo. However, he won't be here Christmas morn, and he no longer believes in Santa, do we do a stocking for him or no?
We have not decided one way or the other, so please no bashing.
I'm just curious what you all would do.
Edited to add: I should mention we are NOT angry he is not coming out for Christmas. He has always preferred his mom and he makes life miserable for us if he's not with her on the holidays so we gave up that fight this year. Which is fine with me and DH he's a kid and he should enjoy Christmas wherever he comfortable.
well we split holidays. stockings are only done at least in our house Christmas morning. The years we don't have the children we do our gifts the last weekend that everyone is together, but never add stockings.
so i would go no, but no harm really in a few cheap things left for him in a stocking. That would be more for the other children to see and maybe even get a little excited over
I think it depends on a few other factors... Does he openly not believe in santa or do you just know that he knows? When I was 12 I knew my parents were santa, but I also liked to "pretend" with my younger brother who still believed - so if anyone asked, I still belived. Could you ask him what he prefers? Maybe, if he's mature enough, you could ask him if he would be upset if there was no stocking (explaining that there would be more non-stocking presents if there were no stocking). Or maybe you could do an alternative to "presents" in the stocking and just do candy and maybe a low $ gift card.
Just some ideas!
i say, he is one of the kids, so stuff that stocking! lol... i think that boys at this age tend to be very tender emotionally even tho they dont show it! and his not getting a stocking may make him feel like a "lesser" part of the family...jmo....he's a kid tho! you just gotta! hell, i'm 31 with 3 (almost 4) kids of my own and married, and my mom and dad STILL give me a stocking.
Amber
mommy to 3 and one on the way!
I would do a stocking. JMO, Christmas is when you can be together. You also would not want him to think that you are upset because he did not come on Christmas morning.
I would definitely give him a stocking. A couple of reasons why: 1. I think he would feel left out. Not equal to the other children. This could come back to you later; either from the boy or possibly his mother. 2. If your little ones are like mine they will ask him where his stocking is and why didn't he get one. He doesn't need to be put in the position to answer this. 3. If your own child had to be away from you on that day would you make him/her one?
You mentioned that he makes your life miserable if he doesn't get his way. Since he's spending the day with his mom I hope this Christmas is different for you all!
BTW, I'm a stepmother, too. :)
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