Who in your household does the bills and manages the money? We have had a joint checking for years and I have always paid all the bills. My husband never paid much attention and would occasionally ask me how much is the account. Well, I know he feels I spend too much, even though all the bills are always paid and we are never short. I do like to shop for myself and the kids but I also woudl never say anything about anything he spends money on. He recently asked (almost demanded actually) that he start doing the checking account and asked me for the check book. I asn't very happy about it but I gave it to him. He's already starting to go through the bank statements and ask me about every little thing. I just can't handle it and feel I'm being controlled. By the way, I have always worked full time and earn a decent salary so it's not like I'm sitting around spending his money. Anyway, am I making too much of this?