5yr old drama queen

[teachergirl]

my 5yr old daughter is an emotional wreck.  Everything is drama.  the socks she wears to brushing her teeth to the chair she sits in.  I am over the edge with her attitude and emotional breakdowns on a 30 min basis.  It has gotten so bad that I really walk on eggshells.  I am almost affraid to ask her to do anything or talk to her about anything; I just don't know how she will respond.  We go from being this sweet loving caring well mannered child to this little girl that screams, hits, kicks, calls names and is just nasty to be around. 

What do I do to help her deal with her emotions and help me survive till we figure out a solution.  I need your help.

[momof4kids257]

Sounds like she's trying to learn what her emotions feel like and what to do when they feel that way.Reassurance when she's scared-the same when she's mad. I talked w/mine at this point by saying...(It's okay to be mad or angry at something but I need to be talked to in a better way. I don't like it when you scream or throw a fit,makes me sad and angry also.the next time you throw a fit and kick etc.. you are going to have time out. for every time in one day you have time out-one star will be not put on your chart for good behavior for this day. ) When the chart got full at the end of the month -or whenever- my children would get to pick out a special dollar toy or something they had their eye on at the dollar store. One child would just request a happy meal as his reward-another was a hot wheel collector and would have his eye on the next one -my daughter would have clothes for her doll or bear or pretend makeup etc.. you get the jist... I hope this helps you out. It's a very stressfull time growing up -just remember a minute a year of age for punishmentin time out. too long and you loose your point you want to get across. good luck and happy holidays!

[AmyL03]

Good Moring, That is a really good reply. I just want to say. I have a 6 yr old girl (2nd) in line. and she has been my most difficult...wow, she is sweet, funny, likes to find ways to just play and make you laugh (like many do) but then she has her tough spot...independant, strong willed, and STUBBORN. I have also said to her the same thing u have done with yours..some times I have even said to just get over it and in some cases "its not about you". This all of course depends on what she's throwing her fit about. I also want to point from about age 2 1/2 yrs until this past school year. She has had 2 yrs of 1/2 days of pre-school and this year is in full day Kindergarten. Keep up the good advise. There is hope and I noticed with in a few days what a difference it made.

Thanks for your post and have a great day.

AmyL03 from Michigan 

[emilyh2008]

she trying to see what she can get away with l have a 11 year old and she does the sane thing. for us is to try to do our best. when my 11 years old act like that l leave her along and she yells and then she knows and then we talk about it. good luck to you

Emily