and how early have you brought the subject up to your own kids?
My parents didn't really teach me about sex. I learned everything in Health class. I had to start really young with my daughter because I was sexually assualted when I was 11 and I wanted her to know her no-no spots and if someone touched them to tell me. She is eight now and when I noticed her breasts developing I started the talks about the cycle and everything. You have to be honest and straight forward with them but at their level. Even though I was talking about these things to her I kept it age appropriate. As the years go on I will continue to talk to her about it and make sure she knows that she can talk to me about anything.
I was taught it was dirty and disgusting and I am still dealing with body issues.
I have talked openly and age appropriately with my children as they ask questions. If they are old enough to ask, I feel they are old enough to hear an answer age appropriately. I want them to have a very healthy body image and understand sex and not be embarassed or feel dirty by it.
My parents didn't. I learned from friends and health class.
I started talking to my dd about sex when she was 11 and had the starting puberty program at school when she was in fifth grade. My sons are still young.
I never had them to speak to me about such things. By the time I was 15, I studied my biology book, checked out a medical encylopedia, and search my own enclyopedia to learn about the reasons I was feeling that way. It made everything easier for me once I understood the basic functions of sex was a natural biological process. By the time I (17 years old) got my first boyfriend, my dad explained that it was natural but he would prefer that I wait until I was sure it was something I wanted to do. Mom was too puritanical about the situation. My son is 15 now and I gave him the medical books, the encylopedias, and the biology book. He already knew a little. As he said, he figured it out on his own. Discussing it from a biological perspective makes it easier. Plus, it makes the religious aspects easier to accept and follow.





- owensmom34
on Feb. 8, 2010 at 11:53 PM