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Should Every Newborn Have a Paternity Test?

Posted by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 4:50 PM
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Posted by Jeanne Sager
on February 20, 2011 at 3:20 PM

paternity testWant to insult a woman who just give birth? Tell her that you don't care who she says fathered that sweet little dumpling. It's time for a state-mandated paternity test.

Welcome to today's addition of stupid laws proposed by state legislators! Today we're traveling to Kansas, where Democrat Melody McCray Miller thinks every child born in the state needs to be tested. Every single one.

And if a mom refuses, the proposed law would give the courts leave to intervene, demanding that a child be tested anyway. In other words, hey mom, we know you're married to this guy and you say you've never slept around on him. He believes you. But we don't.

I'm having a hard time accepting that this is a state issue. Kansas can't legislate what a woman says about her vaginal activities or what a man thinks about them.

Although "out-of-wedlock" births are skyrocketing in the U.S., the majority of babies are still born to married couples. If she's cheating on her husband, that's his problem, not the state's. Until he contests paternity, it's safe to say the mom knows better than anyone whose penis was in her vagina.

And let's talk about the non-married couples. Is it really fair to assume that a woman is automatically lying about the men she's slept with. Provided he is claiming the child as his own, this is again, the man's problem, not the state's.

And finally, what about cases where there is no father to be found? Should a woman who has been subject to domestic violence have to have her child swabbed in case her ex-boyfriend the creep shows up? If she's not asking for child support, she should retain the right to protect both herself and that child. How about moms who have used a sperm donor? Do they need to go through this too?

State Rep. McCray Miller may have had her heart in the right place with this one, but she might want to think about what she's said to the women of Kansas with this proposal. "Sorry, ladies, but we don't trust a damn thing you're saying."

Think she'll get the female vote in the next election?

by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 4:50 PM
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mcginnisc
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 4:53 PM

Ok...so what about rape victims? Yikes.....

Claire

goorob
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 4:58 PM

Nope, I think it's a waste of money that most states don't have.  At most maybe offer it but I sure as hell don't want my tax dollars going towards it, insurance won't cover it most likely.  I say if mommy or daddy have a question about who the father is let them pay for it.

Kris_PBG
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 4:59 PM

What a HUGE waste of money!

It is a misguided idea at best, but in these fiscal times, this is a stupid idea.

mariesmama
by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2011 at 5:01 PM

i know who the father is my obgyn narrowed it down to the weekend i got married

raven1114
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 6:21 PM

this is ridiculous and a waste of time and money. if the parent(s) want a test then fine offer it but to mandate it is wrong. what about rape victims, what happens if they don't even know who the attacker was? what about parents who used a sperm donor?

lotsofchange
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 6:28 PM

Seriously?  This is ridiculous!  Yet another reason why my homebirths were awesome.

offrdngal
by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2011 at 6:37 PM

I think it would be an invasion of privacy. 

sweetsurprise13
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 6:45 PM

ditto.

Quoting offrdngal:

I think it would be an invasion of privacy. 


JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Feb. 20, 2011 at 7:00 PM
No way
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MELRN
by on Feb. 20, 2011 at 7:02 PM

NO mandatory testing ever on anyone.... unless they are accured of a crime

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