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Its is easier being married or just living together?

Posted by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:06 PM
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PORTLAND, Ore. -- Three mornings a week, when Becky Leung gets ready for work, her boyfriend is just getting home from his overnight job. When her mother drops hints about her twin sister's marriage, she laughs it off. And when she thinks about getting married herself, she worries first about her career.

Leung, 27, cohabits in a Portland, Ore., townhome with her boyfriend but has no plans yet to wed, a reflection of the broader cultural shift in the U.S. away from the traditional definition of what it means to be a household.

Data released Thursday by the U.S. Census Bureau shows married couples have found themselves in a new position: They're no longer the majority.

It's a trend that's been creeping along for decades, but in the 2010 Census, married couples represent 48 percent of all households. That's down from 52 percent in the last Census and, for the first time in U.S. history, puts households led by married couples as a plurality.

"I see a lot of people not having the typical 8-to-5 job, or couples where one person is employed and one isn't. There's other priorities before marriage," Leung said.

The flip in the 2010 Census happened in 32 states. In another seven states, less than 51 percent of households were helmed by married couples.

The reason, said Portland State University demographer Charles Rynerson, is twofold: The fast-growing older population is more likely to be divorced or widowed later in life, and 20-somethings are putting off their nuptials for longer stretches.

"People in their 20s are postponing marriage for many reasons, including money," Rynerson said. "We also have an aging population, so there's more people living alone."

Fears of not being able to hang onto a job, a widening labor market for women and a shift away from having kids at a young age have all proved to be a disincentive for people in their 20s and early 30s to join the ranks of the married.


So why do you think marrige is not happening as much and couples are just moving in and living together?

Is there is lack of need for the signed document stating a couple is one?

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MommaClark3
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:12 PM

~*EASIER*~... is not getting married, because less strings attached, and when things don't work out... easier to run (I've been there)

~*REALITY*~... marriage is more "secure", if something happens the spouse and kids are entitled to certain perks, and not to mention I've seen some live-ins have would be in-laws kick them out after a death because they have no rights to the person legally. Breaks my heart... but marriage is more stable

In my opinion less people are getting married because it has less strings? I know when I was with my eldest son's father, I refused to marry him, and thankfully I did... things ended exactly the way I figured they would, and it was easier when I left... and no need for a divorce, he wasn't worth marrying

~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/

Dannille33
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:17 PM

Very good answer... I agree..

and.. I wish I hadn't married the first time.. but I know more now then I did then...

Quoting MommaClark3:

~*EASIER*~... is not getting married, because less strings attached, and when things don't work out... easier to run (I've been there)

~*REALITY*~... marriage is more "secure", if something happens the spouse and kids are entitled to certain perks, and not to mention I've seen some live-ins have would be in-laws kick them out after a death because they have no rights to the person legally. Breaks my heart... but marriage is more stable

In my opinion less people are getting married because it has less strings? I know when I was with my eldest son's father, I refused to marry him, and thankfully I did... things ended exactly the way I figured they would, and it was easier when I left... and no need for a divorce, he wasn't worth marrying

~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/


MommaClark3
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:21 PM

My eldest son was a "suprise"... and his father asked me after I was knocked up?!?! No way was I going to marry him, until I first saw him as a father/partner... and I am so glad I didn't... I would have ended up getting married because I was pregnant... which are all the wrong reasons...

 

Quoting Dannille33:

Very good answer... I agree..

and.. I wish I hadn't married the first time.. but I know more now then I did then...

Quoting MommaClark3:

~*EASIER*~... is not getting married, because less strings attached, and when things don't work out... easier to run (I've been there)

~*REALITY*~... marriage is more "secure", if something happens the spouse and kids are entitled to certain perks, and not to mention I've seen some live-ins have would be in-laws kick them out after a death because they have no rights to the person legally. Breaks my heart... but marriage is more stable

In my opinion less people are getting married because it has less strings? I know when I was with my eldest son's father, I refused to marry him, and thankfully I did... things ended exactly the way I figured they would, and it was easier when I left... and no need for a divorce, he wasn't worth marrying

~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/

 

~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/

Dannille33
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:28 PM

My ex was great at first with my daughter.. it seems after you marry some one .. their true colors come out.. or perhaps I was just to young and dumb I'm not sure..

I can say that I would change that in my life for sure if I could.

Quoting MommaClark3:

My eldest son was a "suprise"... and his father asked me after I was knocked up?!?! No way was I going to marry him, until I first saw him as a father/partner... and I am so glad I didn't... I would have ended up getting married because I was pregnant... which are all the wrong reasons...


Quoting Dannille33:

Very good answer... I agree..

and.. I wish I hadn't married the first time.. but I know more now then I did then...

Quoting MommaClark3:

~*EASIER*~... is not getting married, because less strings attached, and when things don't work out... easier to run (I've been there)

~*REALITY*~... marriage is more "secure", if something happens the spouse and kids are entitled to certain perks, and not to mention I've seen some live-ins have would be in-laws kick them out after a death because they have no rights to the person legally. Breaks my heart... but marriage is more stable

In my opinion less people are getting married because it has less strings? I know when I was with my eldest son's father, I refused to marry him, and thankfully I did... things ended exactly the way I figured they would, and it was easier when I left... and no need for a divorce, he wasn't worth marrying

~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/


~*Beverly*~
http://motherofallboyz.blogspot.com/


RayneofTerror
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 6:52 PM

i don't know. i got married when i was 18 to the man i had been dating for four years. we never lived together before we married. i have no idea wot it is to be an adult and not be married so for me married is easier. :) 

Dannille33
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 7:07 PM

I'm glad it all worked out..

I was married at 19 the first time and very nieve.. my ex was ok at first and them became abusive, lazy, and never would watch our daughter.. when I had my son things got worse.. and the abuse was more ...

so when I was 23 I had enough.. and couldn't put the kids through it any more..

I'm glad to hear stories like yours.. it gives hope to those that marry younger.. :)

Quoting RayneofTerror:

i don't know. i got married when i was 18 to the man i had been dating for four years. we never lived together before we married. i have no idea wot it is to be an adult and not be married so for me married is easier. :) 


MarshaLynn04
by on Jun. 4, 2011 at 7:12 PM

I think it is good to be married.  but I think it just may be more convienent for people to just live together.  its not for me though

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