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Mom Left Baby Outside So She Could Eat Inside

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:03 AM
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Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham
on August 16, 2011 at 2:10 PM

A mom in Massachusetts who left her baby outside of a restaurant in a stroller while she dined inside was being investigated by the authorities on Monday. Her defense? She's Swedish. And guess what else? She is right.

In Scandinavia it's perfectly normal to leave your baby outside. While she wasn't in Sweden, she was in Amherst, Massachusetts, where, perhaps, we're the ones who need to adjust. The fact is, we parents in the US do tend to be the hover-y, overly concerned types. We would sooner wake a sleeping baby and drag him screaming into a restaurant than let him sleep outside. That is just our culture. 

It's sad, really. I would never even think to leave my child outside anywhere, even in my own neighborhood. And the reason is fear.

Our culture is so full of fear that if I lose sight of my little blond son for three seconds out in public, panic sets in. Even if I see him on the fifth second, those two seconds in between feel like an eternity.

I am always waiting for the bogeyman to jump out of the bushes. If I could put my kids in a helmet and knee pads and not feel like a complete moron, you better believe I would.

A similar case won a Danish mom more than $60,000 in compensatory damages from New York City after she was arrested for leaving her baby daughter in a stroller on a New York City sidewalk to go inside a restaurant for a drink.

We US parents wouldn't dream of such a thing. In New York City no less! But realistically, our notions of the dangers are hyped up thanks to overactive imaginations and a 24-hour news cycle that seems to feature only the many horrors that befall children all over the country.

Our sense of danger is all out of whack in this culture, and we will see as the comments roll in just how. My bet is that 99 percent of you will see this mom as wrong. You will say you would never do it yourself. And you know what? I wouldn't either. But that doesn't mean she is wrong. We are. And it's sad.

Do you think this mom was wrong?


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azn_ladie82
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:07 AM

I can understand both sides but I personally still wouldn't leave my child outside while I go sit inside.

Jynnifer292
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:10 AM

 Of course she was wrong. She isn't in Sweden. So what if the chance that your child will be hurt or abducted is small, taking the chance that it will happen is neglectful. There are a lot of nutcases in the world.

Jynnifer292
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:10 AM
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 Anyways, why the hell would you need to leave your children OUTSIDE?

smushy79
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:13 AM
She's wrong.
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KylesMom409
by Linnette on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:16 AM
Same here!


Quoting azn_ladie82:

I can understand both sides but I personally still wouldn't leave my child outside while I go sit inside.


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nodramamama311
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 10:21 AM

I wouldnt do it here in the US but somewhere like where she is from where the crime rates are almost nothing, maybe I would. Im kind of not understanding though why you wouldnt want your child with you while you ate..?

owensmom34
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 11:20 AM

Absolutely without a doubt WRONG!

Flaca43
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 11:28 AM
Yes it was wrong. She was in the United States, not Sweden. Anything could happen. And when you are in a different country you try to follow their culture, don't you? Here you don't leave your child outside like that, especially a baby. There is a lot of crime here, sadly to say, but that is the reality.
And even though you think nothing would happen, why would you want to enjoy a meal by yourself while your child stays outside?
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Jess0915
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 11:32 AM


Quoting nodramamama311:

I wouldnt do it here in the US but somewhere like where she is from where the crime rates are almost nothing, maybe I would. Im kind of not understanding though why you wouldnt want your child with you while you ate..?

Exactly my question. . . I always share with my 11 month old DD and when she's older, I will order her something too. .  I mean she has to eat too, right?

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lalasmama2007
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 11:33 AM

This is exactly what I was thinking.  When you go to another country you should always see what kind of laws, etc there are in that area and try to follow them.  If I was in a foreign country I would be more cautious regarding my DD regardless of what I do at home.

Quoting Flaca43:

Yes it was wrong. She was in the United States, not Sweden. Anything could happen. And when you are in a different country you try to follow their culture, don't you? Here you don't leave your child outside like that, especially a baby. There is a lot of crime here, sadly to say, but that is the reality.
And even though you think nothing would happen, why would you want to enjoy a meal by yourself while your child stays outside?


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