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It Is Never OK to Trick a Man Into Fatherhood

Posted by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:21 PM
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I saw this in The Stir - What do you think?

It Is Never OK to Trick a Man Into Fatherhood
Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham on November 15, 2011

Women who trick men into fatherhood are the lowest of the low. If you think it doesn't exist, think again. It happens all the time

The Daily Mail had several examples of men who were duped into becoming fathers by women who lied about birth control or, worse, used the sperm in the condoms to impregnate themselves. Sometimes it seems like all the rhetoric around childbearing is about women's rights and men's responsibilities, but what about in cases like these where the man is clearly duped into becoming a father because of the woman's biological clock?

It's hard to imagine anything that could be more irresponsible than bringing an unwanted child into the world and then, adding insult to injury, suing the man you tricked into paying for that child for at least 18 years. It's wrong to the man, yes. But even more, it's wrong to the child.

How does a child born this way feel? If a woman really wants a child on her own, there are ethical ways to do that. There are sperm banks and willing men who would like to become dads. What these women do is unconscionable.

Look, I am a woman. I am not one who hates women, either. I think mothers need to be supported and that men get off the hook on many things they ought not to be able to escape. But this is real. I know more than one man to whom this happened. Women sometimes do have an "oops!" pregnancy that was no accident. The reasons may vary, but we all know it happens.

It should be illegal. I know, I know. It's impossible to prove, but so are many things that are illegal. If a man doesn't want a baby and a woman goes against his wishes and creates one, she should be held responsible for it.

As a feminist who is pro-choice, I believe that women aren't the only ones who deserve some control over their bodies and how they're used. A man shouldn't be forced to be financially liable for a child he used precaution to avoid creating. In the end, child support is for the child, then fine. Maybe he pays. But the mom should pay, too.

This "estrogenical treachery" isn't our right as women and we shouldn't expect a man to "step up" if he didn't want to be a daddy in the first place. I have no sympathy for a woman who does something like this and I don't think she is a very good parent or human.

Do you think this is wrong, too?

by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:21 PM
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Stormy6669
by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:25 PM

Oh yea, very wrong. I can't believe some women would actually go as far as using sperm in condoms. How do these men find out? I doubt the women really tell them? But who knows, so sad. I feel for these men and these babies.

AutumnDreamer
by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:26 PM

I agree with the article!  Another thing that makes me mad is when a woman gets pregnant, doesn't tell the guy and then comes back 10-12 years later sueing for back child support.  Women are awful manipulators.

yourpassion
by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:27 PM

i don't think it's right either.  but it happens...

Strega
by on Nov. 15, 2011 at 12:27 PM
I think it's pretty pathetic to trap a Man using anything, but getting pregnant to keep a guy is probably the most pathetic.
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