Hi everyone!! My name is Brandi & I am 31 years old. I have two babies (but dont tell them I called them that) lol! My son is 7 & my daughter is 6. They have taught me more about hope & faith than anyone ever could in their sweet little ways. They have given me hope when I thought nothing else could. I have Rhuematoid Arthritis & I have had this disease for 26 years. Every joint in my body is afflicted. I was told I would be completely disabled by the age of 18 & that I would never be able to carry a child. Well I proved that I could by not only carrying a child but by carrying 2 & having a natural birth with both of my sweet miracle babies. After the birth of my daughter I began to decline rapidly & it took until the age of 29 before I became unable to get around. There are some days that I can move or walk alone but those days are few & far between. I sunk into a depression that I kept hidden to the best of my ability. I didnt want anyone to know that the fighter I always had been just didn't have any fight left. I was afraid that my husband would grow tired of having a wife who couldn't do everything that others wives can do with ease. But the thing I feared the most was that my children would think I was an embarassment. I have always done everything for my babies & I have always played with them.. I would hold a crayon in their tiny little hands & color with them before they really knew how to even sit up alone. I did these things because they would look at me with their beautiful green eyes just sparkling & they would smile so big as I taught them all the colors as we made beutiful pictures together. Now I cannot hold the crayon in my hand most days. Well one day my daughter was playing with her friends & I overheard her friend ask why does her daddy have to fix her hair in the morning and not her mommy. My daughter said "my mommy has ateratus" ( thats the exact way she said pronounced arthritis.) When her friend asked her what is that my daughter said " its when your mommy can't move anymore & she cries when she is in the bathtub so she can say its not tears on her face its just water." (Which of course made me cry even harder!) When I heard this I decided right then & there I would teach my babies about the disease their mommy has in a way that they would understand & not be worried or afraid.. Then I made up my mind that I was goin to snap out if my funk because it wasnt fair to my kids. So I did & now everyday I wake up & I thank God for blessing me with my kids & husband who helped me have hope again. They make me smile!!!
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 4:38 PM
beleive it or not your not alone my mom s was so bad some days she couldnt hold a pen my aunt also has this i dont know how to ride bike becuase when i was old enough mom was unable to physically hold the bike
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 7:27 PM
Aww.. Im just happy my husband is able to help our kids do things like that. Im also happy that he is such a great Daddy. :)
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 7:33 PM
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Your story brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy you have a supporting husband and wonderful kids to help you get through a difficult and debilitating disease. What a great outlook you have now and I commend you for how you're handling it. :) HUGS!
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 7:56 PM
You are so blessed to have your two beautiful children and your husband. I'm sorry you have to go through that. I believe God wouldn't give you anything you can't handle.
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 8:00 PM
I cried :'( What a wonderful family u have...and u will overcome. Fight on...:) what an inspiration u r!
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