How should I have reacted to this? ?

[janice242]

I’m writing because I need advice about my son, a 14-year-old. He came home from school yesterday with a slight limp, so I asked him what happened, thinking that he suffered an injury in gym or at practice. To the contrary, he told me (albeit reluctantly) that he had been hit in the balls. I asked what happened, he tried to dodge the question, I asked again, and finally he admitted that he had intentionally did something to a junior girl when he and his friends were playing truth and dare. Some of his friends asked him to do some stuff on that girl to hurt her, he tried something but she responded well to the situation and kicked his sweetspot.

On one hand, I felt bad for him because he was in pain from the kick in the balls, but, on the other hand, I was furious with him because I didn’t raise him to treat women that way. Quite simply, I was torn between A) sympathy and B) feeling as if he deserved it. 

I don't know. 

If you were in my position, how would you have reacted, and what would you have said to him?

[Flaca43]

I would have gotten upset. I don't want my boys to mistreat girls and would be so dissapointed in them if they did. I would have told them they need to apologize to the girl. I would tell them never to do anything like that again.

Were there not any teachers around?

[BonitaM]

If he was my son, I would have said, "that's what you get for being a jerk".....then I would have a talk with him on treating women with respect and ground him for his actions.   I would have had no sympathy.  

[soontobemommie3]

Yup. This.

Quoting Flaca43:

I would have gotten upset. I don't want my boys to mistreat girls and would be so dissapointed in them if they did. I would have told them they need to apologize to the girl. I would tell them never to do anything like that again.



Were there not any teachers around?

[JasonsMom2007]

Yeah he deserved that one

[bcauseimthemom]

 I would have made him apologize to the girl. I would have taken him there myself and made sure he did it. I then would have taken him to the doctor to make sure that he was ok. He would lose his freedom, electronics and privileges and privacy for at least a month.

My kid or not, this behavior is just the tip of the iceburg. If it isn't addressed now, you are looking at a future rapist.

How would you feel if it were your daughter that was being harmed?

[janice242]

yeah I have grounded him but now he is crying.He understood his mistake plus she had given an enough punishment I think. He told me it really aching and cutting his movements

[tweetyfan]

I would have laughed and said I guess you willnt do something so stupid again ....

[janice242]

told the same to him.But I can see the pain in his eyes. More than mental pain he got physical pain only.

[janice242]

I like ur approch...Teasing him would be better I think...I gave him the consequences of getting a kick in balls...I told all girls know that is weak spot so gentle with them to not to suffer the same pain again

[tweetyfan]

Bet he doesn't do it again lol...