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Its scary but feel some Moms are over reacting.....

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 Apparently in the area where my kids used to go to school and Where we live there was a Red car that tried picking up 2 girls walking home from school. Now that it happened in our area a lot of the Moms are now freaking out saying they aren't letting their kids play outside unless they are there to watch them the whole time, they won't let their kids go around the block like they used to.

All I said was that it happens everywhere, you can't stop your kids from playing just because this incident happened so close to home. I let my son go down the block on Sunday with a friend but he didnt have a phone but when he got to his friends he called me, let me know where he was and where he was going, called again when he was leaving etc. I always tell him he has to ride his bike or scooter if he plans on going out front because I don't want him walking anywhere, its safer to have wheels. Also when we are waiting at the bus stop the kids and I play a "Game" where we try to memorize the license plates that drive by. I told the kids if they are ever in trouble try to write any information they possibly can anywhere especially on a dirty car is a good idea.

I think all we can do is teach our kids how to stay safe and stay protected, I myself was almost kidnapped when I was younger but I was taught to run to the first house where I knew someone and call for help. That saved me, they never found the guy who was driving but if I wasn't taught the things I was taught who knows where I would be.


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by on Mar. 15, 2012 at 10:21 AM
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Crazy-Steph
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 9:29 AM
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I completely agree with you.  I refuse to let fear ruin the childhood of my children.

Traci_Momof2
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 9:31 AM
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15 seems awfully old to first allow them to go around the block.  I mean, a lot of kids start driving by themselves at 16 and are going all over town wherever they want.  How do you go from "yay, I can walk around the block by myself" to "I'm driving myself all over the place" in only one year???  It's my opinion that you are greatly inhibiting their growth in independence all over an irrational fear.  I honestly think that over-protectiveness to that degree does much more harm than it does good.

But your kids, you prerogative.

Quoting alphamom26:

 I'd rather live my life in fear than lose my kids to some pervert. When you talk about allowing freedoms, are you talking about young kids or older kids? No matter where we live, if my kids are under 15 they are staying in my sight. If they are under 5 they are staying in my sight holding my hand unless they are in my yard. Once they are older than 15 they can go around the block, but be dang sure they are gonna call me whenever they get there/leave there. I don't care if you think I'm an overprotective, smothering mother.

We grew up in a "safe" neighborhood. Everybody knew everybody. We all went to each others cookouts. We went to each others birthday parties. But if we wanted to ride our bikes in the street, mom had to be on the front porch watching us. If we wanted to go to a neighbor's brithday party, one of our parents had to go too. One day when I was about 13, one of our neighbor's that we knew, we played with his daughter every day, we went to every one of her birthday parties for 8 years, was arrested. We watched the cops cuff him in his front yard. We found out that he had been arrested for possession and distribution of child porn. He also had an arsenal of weapons in his home, including assault rifles, automatic weapons, handguns, knives, and hand grenades. We saw this guy EVERY day. Everybody in the neighbrhood who had known him and us kept asking my parents "How did you know?" Well, they didn't. They were just being careful and taking care of us. We could have easily all been raped, murdered, kidnapped, or turned into child porn subjects. Too bad there aren't more parents like mine who protect their children. I am  going to be one. Join me, won't you? 

 I think you need to think about your stance on this. You are trusting your child's safety to complete strangers in THIS WORLD? I don't think you are right. And apparently neither do a lot of these other ladies.  

Quoting LuvHugs429:

 They were saying they started letting their kids go around the block and ride around but now that this is happening their kids won't be allowed to anymore. I think its wrong to give kids that freedom then take it away. Like I said I was almost kidnapped myself but you can't live your life or have your kids lives lived in fear.

Quoting Nikkij-j:

 Thankfully, I live in the country and don't have to worry about that right now.  But I can tell you that I would be one of the moms that "overreact". My childs safety is my biggest concern.  If I lived in a bigger town, there is no way I would let my kids do what I did when I was growing up.  I was allowed to play in the neighborhood until dusk and most of the time, my parents really didn't know where I was for sure.  A teenage girl was murdered in our "safe" little community.  Things are always safe until they happen to your kid.  An adult that wants to do something bad will easily take control of a child.  Anyway,  I am happy keeping my kids safe in the middle of nowhere! :)

*edit Oh, and even living out in the middle of nowhere, I am outside when my kids are outside.  I make sure I have two hours after they get home from school to be outside with them.

 

 


Godspitgrl
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 9:36 AM

I don't think they are over reacting at all. If they were to get hurt how would you know if you can not see them or another adult? How would you know if there was a fight or somethign and it actually was their fault or not if you are not watching? How would you know they are safe at all if you are not watching? I think that someone should be watching them or with them at all times. Is their an age where they may get some slack (my kids right now are 5, 4, and 11 months) maybe but not anytime soon. 

ashleywagoner
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 9:37 AM
I would be a big "overreacting " Mom too. My son is absolutely everything to me. If he was taken I would be lost. My life would be a nightmare.
I think those moms just don't want anything to happen to their children and I don't see anything wrong with that.
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foxfroggy
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 9:38 AM
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Why on earth is it "overreacting" when there is a known predator on the loose? Yes, teach your children about safety but a wise mom supervises as well. 

mama2allblue
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 10:02 AM
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Add me to the chorus of "over protective" moms I suppose. I didn't allow my 14 year old to leave our yard until he was 10. He was just allowedto leave the block beginning last year.  My little ones are not allowed to go out in the yard without me, even the fenced backyard.

Kmary
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 10:06 AM
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I know this will sound offensive, but I don't know how else to say it.  I feel really sorry for your kids.  Did you really mean what you said?  That your child under 5 has to always be holding your hand except in your yard?  Like you'd never take a 4 year old to a playground or park?  They'd have to hold your hand while they go down a slide? Never walk around the block unless you're physically holding them? Everyone under 15 has to be in your sight?  Can a teenager go to their friends house?  I'm sorry, but this seems sooooo extreme.  My mom was admittedly overprotective of me, but you make her look care-free and negligent.   That is just a horrible way to live, for them and you,  and you are absolutely setting them up for a  lifetime of dependence, poor self esteem and anxiety. 

Quoting alphamom26:

 I'd rather live my life in fear than lose my kids to some pervert. When you talk about allowing freedoms, are you talking about young kids or older kids? No matter where we live, if my kids are under 15 they are staying in my sight. If they are under 5 they are staying in my sight holding my hand unless they are in my yard. Once they are older than 15 they can go around the block, but be dang sure they are gonna call me whenever they get there/leave there. I don't care if you think I'm an overprotective, smothering mother.

We grew up in a "safe" neighborhood. Everybody knew everybody. We all went to each others cookouts. We went to each others birthday parties. But if we wanted to ride our bikes in the street, mom had to be on the front porch watching us. If we wanted to go to a neighbor's brithday party, one of our parents had to go too. One day when I was about 13, one of our neighbor's that we knew, we played with his daughter every day, we went to every one of her birthday parties for 8 years, was arrested. We watched the cops cuff him in his front yard. We found out that he had been arrested for possession and distribution of child porn. He also had an arsenal of weapons in his home, including assault rifles, automatic weapons, handguns, knives, and hand grenades. We saw this guy EVERY day. Everybody in the neighbrhood who had known him and us kept asking my parents "How did you know?" Well, they didn't. They were just being careful and taking care of us. We could have easily all been raped, murdered, kidnapped, or turned into child porn subjects. Too bad there aren't more parents like mine who protect their children. I am  going to be one. Join me, won't you? 

 I think you need to think about your stance on this. You are trusting your child's safety to complete strangers in THIS WORLD? I don't think you are right. And apparently neither do a lot of these other ladies.  

Quoting LuvHugs429:

 They were saying they started letting their kids go around the block and ride around but now that this is happening their kids won't be allowed to anymore. I think its wrong to give kids that freedom then take it away. Like I said I was almost kidnapped myself but you can't live your life or have your kids lives lived in fear.

Quoting Nikkij-j:

 Thankfully, I live in the country and don't have to worry about that right now.  But I can tell you that I would be one of the moms that "overreact". My childs safety is my biggest concern.  If I lived in a bigger town, there is no way I would let my kids do what I did when I was growing up.  I was allowed to play in the neighborhood until dusk and most of the time, my parents really didn't know where I was for sure.  A teenage girl was murdered in our "safe" little community.  Things are always safe until they happen to your kid.  An adult that wants to do something bad will easily take control of a child.  Anyway,  I am happy keeping my kids safe in the middle of nowhere! :)

*edit Oh, and even living out in the middle of nowhere, I am outside when my kids are outside.  I make sure I have two hours after they get home from school to be outside with them.

 



LadyLotus3
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 10:07 AM
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 Yes, I think parents overreact too quickly over many things anymore.

My kids know to never go with someone they dont know no matter what they are asked or told,etc. They know if someone grabs for them to scream and kick and yell "fire" at the top of their lungs(was taught this as a child because more people look and respond to a call about fire than just a simple help) and they will.

 

Aamy
by Bronze Member on Mar. 16, 2012 at 10:07 AM
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Its damned if you do, damned if you don't. If a kid is taken ppl scream why wasn't someone out watching the kid so ..... what's the win/win?
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Greekmama21
by on Mar. 16, 2012 at 10:24 AM

I would think living in the country would make kids an easier target because there would be fewer potential witnesses around. My parents lived in the country and one of the neighbor girls was murdered when I was five years old. It is such a convenient place because not as many people live in the area so fewer people who are out gardening, walking, etc. There are so many walkers, joggers and bikers in our HOA that I would feel very safe allowing kids to play outdoors at an appropriate age. There are always people outside so if someone was trying to kidnap a child it would be a lot of work. 

Quoting Nikkij-j:

 Thankfully, I live in the country and don't have to worry about that right now.  But I can tell you that I would be one of the moms that "overreact". My childs safety is my biggest concern.  If I lived in a bigger town, there is no way I would let my kids do what I did when I was growing up.  I was allowed to play in the neighborhood until dusk and most of the time, my parents really didn't know where I was for sure.  A teenage girl was murdered in our "safe" little community.  Things are always safe until they happen to your kid.  An adult that wants to do something bad will easily take control of a child.  Anyway,  I am happy keeping my kids safe in the middle of nowhere! :)

*edit Oh, and even living out in the middle of nowhere, I am outside when my kids are outside.  I make sure I have two hours after they get home from school to be outside with them.


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