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22-Month-Old Killed by SUV Is a Heartbreaking Wake-Up Call for All! Do you always look for small children when you back up?

Posted by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:04 PM
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22-Month-Old Killed by SUV Is a Heartbreaking Wake-Up Call for All


Posted by Julie Ryan Evans

SUV backupIt's a story that has played out in my nightmares countless times, and now for two families, it's their horrifying reality. It happened this weekend in a high school parking lot during a softball game in Titusville, Florida, not far from where I live.

According to a story in USA Today, 22-month-old Brady Hutto went with his mother to get something out of their car, and somehow he wandered away from her. She saw an SUV backing up toward him, and she screamed. It was too late.

Brady was run over, and while someone nearby tried to perform CPR, the boy was pronounced dead when he arrived at the hospital. Titusville Police Maj. Todd Hutchinson told the paper:

She witnessed the car backing over her child. She yelled to get the driver's attention, but by then it was too late. The most serious injury was trauma to the chest.

I gasped out loud when I read the story, because I can see how easily it could happen at the baseball games I attend with my toddler daughter several nights a week. There I am trying to keep an eye on her and watch her brother's game. There's a good play, and I get distracted for just a second, and ... the parking lot is right there. It hits too close to home to be unfathomable.

However, as much as I ache for Brady's family, who will never hold their little boy again, never see him grow up to play his own high school sports games, I also mourn for the woman who was in the SUV that ran him over.

Her name is Pam Bodenheimer. The 51-year-old is the wife of the town's police chief, and her daughter plays on the softball team with Brady's sister. She was reportedly friends with Brady's mother. There's no indication alcohol was involved; it appears to be nothing but a horrific accident. An accident that could happen to any of us in a hurry, racing off to get a forgotten glove, or to make it to another child's event.

We glance; we assume; we go. Kids are so small, it's almost impossible to see them in your rear-view mirror, and if you don't have a toddler yourself, you're often not in the mindset of thinking one could be behind you. It's why I'll never own a car without a backup camera, and even that, I know, is no guarantee.

Brady's is a story that every parent should know and share, because we all can use a reminder. We need to remember no matter where we are to always give that extra glance behind us, to slow down, and, of course, to do everything we can to know where our toddlers are at all times.

Do you always look for small children when you back up?

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JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:08 PM
I look before I get in and I look around to see if there are any young children around. I always know exactly where my kids are too. But you cant see if a kid wanders right behind you while you are getting in.
Thankfully my sons tee ball games keep my daughter far from the parking lot.
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KylesMom409
by Linnette on Apr. 30, 2012 at 5:13 PM
Oh my goodness what a heartbreaking story. :(
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sheri305
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 5:34 PM


Quoting KylesMom409:

Oh my goodness what a heartbreaking story. :(


And yes,I always look when im backing up,and I look around while getting in the vehicle as well......

RavishingMama
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 6:25 PM
I always look before backing up and my minivan has front and rear sensors. I also have my kids either in my arms, in a stroller or holding my hand at all times. I have 3 close in age and don't let myself be distracted on parking lots.

I feel terrible for the mother and the person who was driving. :-(
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kristyann
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 6:26 PM
My car has a back up camera in the navigation system that comes on automatically when you put it in reverse.
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IQuitCounting
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 6:42 PM
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I used the back-pack leash on my son when he was that young.  I had friends make fun of it but the simple fact is that I put my child's safety above other people's opinions.  I felt silly at first but all it takes is a few seconds for your child to get away from you.  They like to run faster if you run after them, they think it's a game, they giggle, they dart, they don't listen or can't hear because of things like traffic.  They're little drunken midgets at that age.  They have no real understanding of self-preservation.

That's a horrible thing for a parent to have to go through.  It makes me shudder even thinking about it.

And I don't drive, so the question posed is N/A.

vlester
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 10:48 PM

oh wow

EmilyMarshall
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 10:50 PM
my goodness


countrymomma81
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 10:53 PM

If and when I was forced to bring my younger child to my older child's events, I put her in the back of the SUV while I was doing what I needed. Or I parked her in her stroller.  She was the last thing to be grabbed. I'd rather leave her in the car on accident rather than have that happen. 

It sucks for both families but I don't understand why people can't keep an eye on young children? Everyone knows they can't be trusted not to wander off. 

I always look before I back up, but sometimes you still just can't see, ya know? Our next SUV will have back up sensors. I insist. We do 4 sports a year and therefore are always around small children. It's a feature I'm willing to spend extra on, whether it be for my child's safety or that of another child. 

countrymomma81
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 10:55 PM


Quoting IQuitCounting:

I used the back-pack leash on my son when he was that young.  I had friends make fun of it but the simple fact is that I put my child's safety above other people's opinions.  I felt silly at first but all it takes is a few seconds for your child to get away from you.  They like to run faster if you run after them, they think it's a game, they giggle, they dart, they don't listen or can't hear because of things like traffic.  They're little drunken midgets at that age.  They have no real understanding of self-preservation.

That's a horrible thing for a parent to have to go through.  It makes me shudder even thinking about it.

And I don't drive, so the question posed is N/A.

Exactly. And that's why I don't understand why more parents don't watch their children. I'm not just talking about this story. I see it all the time at the store. Some mom letting her two year old walk across the parking lot in front of her cart while she's on the phone or whatever. Accidents usually happen faster than we can react. 

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